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Last post, we talked about the series of events that lead up
to two people talking and eventually becoming intimate. I also mentioned that
although it appears that men make all the moves, it's actually women who
initiate up to 90% of these interactions because they are sending physiological
signals. Men may or may not consciously notice the movements, but their
subconscious does and that's when they make their move. So…I'm presenting you
with top secret information on reading the body language of a woman. Use it
wisely.
This female relies on primitive smoke signals to attract
men. It totally works. Image Credit: GoktukAyan's
The Signs
Although the sequence of events discussed in the last post may seem
minor or even common sense, they are critical to the start of a new courtship
and are often the most challenging part because it can be hard to read the
signals. Here is an abridged list of courtship gestures and signals.
This video
is a clip from a documentary about Indicators of interest (IOI'). To learn the
signals skip to about 3:20 in the video.
- Playing
with her hair- A body language movement for women only, but the twisting or
flicking of hair is a sign of interest or attraction. It shows that the women
cares about how she looks and also subtly releases pheromones from the armpit
(I know it's not pretty, but it's biology).
- Wet lips
with mouth slightly open- When a woman becomes sexually aroused, her lips,
breasts, and genitals become larger and redder as they fill with blood. A woman
will put on red lipstick to mimic this reaction and wet her lips as a sexual
invitation.
- Limp
wrist- This is a submissive signal used exclusively by women and gay men
because it's a great attention getter. It can be related to a bird pretending
to have a damaged wing to distract pray from its nest. Women should be careful
with this signal though; in business it can ruin your creditability because the
man will believe he can dominate. Along
with the wrist gestures, exposing the
wrist also has a similar effect since the underside is a very sensitive
part of the body. It's uncertain whether
this is a learned behavior or is innate, but it certainly operates on an
unconscious level.
- Pelvic
tilt and hip roll- Women are known for this hourglass figure. The figure is
formed because of the women's hip-to-waist ratio. A normal hip-to-waist ratio
is 70 percent, which according to medical evidence, shows that a woman is in
excellent health and is capable of successfully bearing children. According to
a study
done at the University of Texas, the hips-to-waist ratio that holds the
greatest appeal is between 67 and 80 percent. The way a woman highlights this
ratio is to stand with her pelvis tilted.
- Lower
limbs- There are quite a few signals that a woman can give with her lower
body. Pointing her knee towards you during conversation not only makes
the situation more relaxed; it also shows that she's interested in what you
have to say. Crossing her legs while
sitting draws attention to the muscle tone and dangling the shoe on the end of her foot also indicates a relaxed and
comfortable attitude.
- Seeing
their teeth through the smile- A real smile will show as least one row of
front teeth and cause wrinkles to form in the corners of the eyes.
Can you see the signals? Image Credit: only-apartments.com
So the next time you're at a party or event, watch the individuals around
you. Does the guy stand a chance with the girl he's talking to, or is she
pointing her knee at someone else.You perhaps?
Resources
Body
Language: In state of flirting
Reading
Body Language
Pease, Allan, and Barbara Pease. The Definitive
Book of Body Language. New York: Bantam, 2006. Print.
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