In the first part of this discussion, we talked about some of the perceived differences between men's and women's brains in regards to how they think and feel. Now let's look at some other functions that involve the brain.
Dealing with Stress
After a really hard workday, what do you do to unwind? Some behavioral trends show that men and women often handle stress in different ways.

(I do not advocate the above method...)
To de-stress, men tend to use a "fight or flight" strategy. To fight means to fix the problem, and work on it (and only it) until a solution is found. If they can't fix the problem, they resort to flight, meaning they isolate themselves from it by focusing on something else or on nothing at all. When a man goes to his video games, TV, drinks, etc., he is going to his favorite place of detachment. Mark Gungor explains this concept as the "nothing box" in his hilarious series Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage. Here is an excerpt video of the series from YouTube.
To remove stress, women tend to prefer to process their thoughts and issues outwardly and verbally. Since women tend to be much more emotionally centered, relieving stress requires dealing with that emotion by relating it to others. Unlike men, women aren't necessarily looking for either a fight or flight solution for their stress. Talking isn't necessarily done to fix the solution or to run from it, but instead is needed to relieve the pressure and anxiety associated with it.
Strengths for Both Parties
Brain differences may also be linked to a few other gender trends that we see.
Men have dominant spatial perception. They tend to be better at visualizing objects in three dimensions, judging speed, and estimating time. When navigating, men tend to use geometric angles and tend to be better at reading maps. Their independent, competitive nature also means they are less likely to stop and ask for directions, even if they are lost.
Additionally, men tend to score higher on mathematical problems and numbers. This is linked to men's noticeably larger inferior-parietal lobule (IPL) which is thought to control mental mathematical ability. Some might argue that this is why there are more men in engineering and math related fields, but there are many other factors may have a greater influence on this trend.
Women have stronger visual memory and recall. Because women tend to link information in the brain to emotions and images (visual thinking), they are better at memorization and remembering little details. It accounts for why women tend to navigate and orient themselves more often via landmarks. Their relational tendency means they might be more inclined to ask for directions than to keep driving and get lost like their husbands would.

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Additionally, women have dominant language skills (processing and communication) and fine motor skills (e.g. handwriting). This is due to the frontal area and temporal area of the cortex in the brain, which are more precisely organized in women.
To End
Though some would love to debate it, intelligence is a gender-neutral subject. Some trends in how we think and act, however, may not be.
The question about the differences found in these studies is to what extent they exist and what the implications are. Problems arise in relationships when gender differences become overemphasized (resulting in prejudice) or deemphasized (resulting in miscommunication and misunderstanding).
In my opinion, these differences should not be threats or judgments on anyone. Again, there is much more variation between individuals than between genders. But especially when it comes to communication and interaction, I'd like to think that much can be gained by recognizing and celebrating these trends where they exist, and realizing that they are complementary and beneficial rather than restrictive and limiting. Take this one study, which says that mixed gender groups (specifically more women) may correlate to higher group thinking.
In addition, exaggerations on gender differences are also a lot of fun to laugh at. Take the "Men and Women Think Differently" sketch from Brian Regan's The Epitome of Hyperbole or a section of Jerry Seinfeld's I'm Telling You For The Last Time as examples.
And since this is a relationship centered blog, I'd be willing to bet that the primary source of relational conflict and confusion across the gender divide is the result of a misunderstanding of these differences.
In short, acknowledging differences in the brain may be the best way for Martians and Venusians to co-inhabit this place called Earth.
Sources:
BabyCenter - Raising Boys and Girls: Differences in Physical Development
Harvard Business Review - What Makes a Team Smarter? More Women
Medical News Today - Sex Difference On Spatial Skill Test Linked to Brain Structure
MedicineNet - How Male and Female Brains Differ
Oxford Journals - Morphology of the Ventral Frontal Cortex
Other Stuff:
Youtube - Mark Gungor's Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage
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