Design of Self-operated Coupling

Well, check out the internet, you'll find a number of different types.

There are couplings based on clutches, shear pins, with retracting mehanisms,...

What are your requirements? How much torque? At what speed? What are the size constraints? In what environment it must operate (media, temperature, pressure, must seal something, ...)? Must be automatically recoverable, must require user action, or acts like a "fusible" link? What are the end connections? Must have vibration dampening characteristics? Must allow misalignments? Must withstand impacts? Must withstand bend/side loads?

Answer these questions, and you'll be closer to your objective.

i have to make a general design, not for particular unique value of torque and speed , environmental conditions are NTP,

Seems too vague for me, because the size and the forces involved do determine the type of coupling you need.

For a so generic application, I'd think in a spring loaded clutch.