No, You Can't Hurry Love

I'd say that the song pretty well sums it up, though I haven't listened to it lately.

I wish I knew more about game theory. Poker seems to be a big one to understand.

I really don't know that any mathematical explanation as far as courtship behavior will prove to be of any great benefit, for there are in my experience other powerful factors involved.

One is that we are attracted to people not on any particularly logical basis, but due to psychological factors, such as how they treat us. You will tend to find people desirable if they treat you like your mother did, or treat you like your mother did.

In a discussion with some guys during lunch the question of how long one ought to know a woman before one marries them, it was determined that you ought to know them for 3 years. The bald final quote was, "You need to know them for 3 years, all the shit comes out in the third year." (please forgive me for using the exact quote, it is simply too correct as said, from my experience.) What is further interesting is that it does seem to me from my experiments, if you want to call them that, instead of history, that a relationship that is exclusive for three weeks, can be expected to pretty much be like that for a lifetime or the duration of it.

There is the culturally recognized American tendency for women to marry men, and then feel it is their duty and right to work at changing them.

This is an unrealistic expectation on the part of Western woman and a source of much pain for many.

For education about matters of the heart, love and courtship, I am more inclined to recommend works of literature, like War and Peace by Tolstoy, or Some Came Running by James Jones, than any mathematically based tome.

My wife recommends The Prophet by Kahil Gibran. I myself didn't think much of it, but she is well educated. P.S. As a courtship trick it is recommended to pay sweet attentions to a girl, and then ignore her for a bit, until she is caused to wonder if she might need to be nice, or lose your interest.

I told my daughter to not be too interested in boys who are only interested in her.

GA.

Love is mysterious. All the worlds scientists, engineers, and politicians combined could never come up with any mathematical equation to describe love. The worst part of it, is that no matter what you believe or how hard you try, Love cannot be controlled. Its quite a powerful force.