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I Give You Permission to Fail

Posted October 14, 2018 12:00 AM by ahorner_22
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Today’s world is filled with potential failure. Human beings fear failure. If I don’t do this correctly what will happen? Will my failure define me?

Failure is an omission of occurrence. It is falling short of expectations or not being able to perform as expected. Sounds simple, yet it means so much more.

Everyone at some point in life will fail. What I am referring to is real failure, grand failure. The kind of failure that makes you question things like judgment, confidence and self-worth. This kind of failure is the soul-searching, life-changing kind, where you wonder if you are in the right place or if you belong somewhere else.

Being able to take why you failed and learn something is painful. You must be able to admit your mistakes and not place blame. Then you must get up and move forward. If failure affects you, it doesn’t matter who made it happen, it matters who is responsible. Once you understand what happened, you can learn how and why. If you know the answers to these questions, you will learn. Learning is growing which is the bridge between failure and success.

The best way to become a success is to fail on a grand scale. What matters most after failure is looking inside yourself to determine the answers to those questions. When you own the answers, you can begin to make changes that bring things full circle.

Next time you are pondering a failure, look in the mirror and ask yourself those “who what why how” questions. Be the journalist of your failure. Research people who have inspiring success stories. Those people gave themselves permission to fail. They used that failure to propel themselves forward and achieve greatness. I am giving you permission to fail. Use it. Propel yourself forward.


Editor's note: This is a guest blog post by Julie Basello for Radwell International.

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10/14/2018 3:18 AM

Failure can cost a lot.....make sure you get your money's worth by learning the lesson it has taught you...

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10/16/2018 6:07 AM

I never fail, I make a lot of features to enhance what was designed! & if you say it with enough conviction people will accept it.

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10/14/2018 2:48 PM

Unfortunately, management too often utters that statement with absolutely NO intention of supporting the granted "...right to fail..." -- it's binary, you succeed or fail with your company value being tied to the results.

Failure is NOT an option, it is an employer assigned albatross.

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10/14/2018 11:07 PM

"Houston, we have a problem. I appreciate your permission to fail. But, that won't get us back to Earth. Any other words of wisdom?"

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10/15/2018 6:58 AM

Yes Dennis #3, ...and they could have added " ....thanks Houston - but we didn't give you permission to fail - you just helped yourself to it - and you expect us to pay the bill! - nice one"

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10/16/2018 10:33 AM

Everybody gets a cupcake...but sprinkles are for winners.

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10/17/2018 5:33 AM

Many don't understand the implications of the following words:

  • Responsible: able to respond. All individuals are able to respond. However, that is a backwards-looking activity. Good Engineers are forward looking, using the lessons from the past to make sure that prevention takes precedence over cure.
  • Culpable: the recipient of blame. Blame is not a useful concept in Engineering. Blame is associated with the Legal profession, which is said to be the third step up from Prostitution and Estate Agency in some rankings.
  • Liable: the payer of compensation. Insurance is a way of covering the commercial risks though it cannot cover the criminal ones.

Many confuse the meaning of the first two and are blind to the implications of the third.

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10/17/2018 5:38 AM

Apollo 13 was a failure: a successful failure and a beautiful example of teamwork reaching a triumph over adversity, as it turned out.

Recommended book reading: Gene Krantz [the Flight Director of the Apollo 13 mission], "Failure is not an option", available retail from any number of outlets.

Recommended viewing: "Apollo 13", the feature film that dramatises very well the crisis, available retail from any number of outlets.

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10/17/2018 10:51 AM

More like partial failure. The mission was to send three people to the moon, land two on the surface and return the three safely home. The moment the fuel cell blew, the mission changed to get the three back safely. The revised mission was a remarkable success.

I would compare that to Shackleton's trip to the south pole where it was planned for failure from the get-go and then spun in the press as a stunning success for managing to survive the consequences of bad planning and bad choices. A great example of the inability to cure stupid, but managing to survive by the skin of your teeth. He never made it to Antarctica, sank his ship, abandoned most of his crew to their own devices for nearly a year, but he did get a good book out of it.

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10/17/2018 10:54 AM

<...did get a good book out of it....> Oh, that's all right, then...

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10/18/2018 6:22 AM

"We've got redundancies to make ...you're fired..."

"What? ..can't hear you...noisy workshop"

"You're fired..."

"Sorry, still can't make out what you are saying...."

"YOU'RE FIRED..."

"No, sorry, still having trouble hearing you...you'll have to shout."

"I AM SHOUTING - YOU'RE FIRED - get it- FIRED."

"Sorry - say that again - louder"

"....forget it, I'll sack someone who's not deaf"

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10/21/2018 3:07 PM

I have failed 999 times, but it is not a loss!! I now know 999 ways to not succeed at the task.

I don't remember the exact quote attributed to Thomas Edison, but the above has the idea of it.

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10/22/2018 6:06 AM

We had two rules where I used to work;

Rule 1 the boss is always right!

Rule 2 if for any reason the boss is wrong refer to rule one.

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