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Be excellent to each other

Posted November 21, 2021 12:00 AM
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In recent weeks we’ve talked about eliminating political discussions, reporting things to moderators and also rating threads and comments.

If executed, this will all lead to a more positive, collaborative community. The internet is a cesspool of snark, trolls, egos and cynicism. CR4 will not become a habitat for this general internet toxicity.

But that means users need to consider how they interact with each other. As corny as it sounds, invoke the golden rule. If you are not looking for an argument, do not be argumentative.

This means you may sometimes need to let a sideways comment go, or ignore someone who is trying to bait you into an argument. This also means not giving cynical answers or purposefully unhelpful replies to users, especially new ones who might not be up to speed on CR4 etiquette and quirks. If you feel a user is too antagonistic or offensive, please remember to report them.

To quote former queen Savvy, “Please remember to be courteous to one another on the forum. If the only response you can formulate is a nasty one, don't post a reply.”

It is a bit hard to define my message any further than “be nice to each other,” but that is the gist.

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11/21/2021 11:32 PM

Your message was well defined, and definitely appropriate.

My mother said it to me over 70 years ago: "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all."

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11/22/2021 12:54 AM

Yes. it is an age-old law that should be abode.

सत्यं ब्रूयात् प्रियं ब्रूयान्न ब्रूयात् सत्यमप्रियम् ।
प्रियं च नानृतं ब्रूयादेष धर्मः सनातनः ॥ १३८ ॥

satyaṃ brūyāt priyaṃ brūyānna brūyāt satyamapriyam |
priyaṃ ca nānṛtaṃ brūyādeṣa dharmaḥ sanātanaḥ || 138 ||

He shall say what is true; and he shall say what is agreeable; he shall not say what is true, but disagreeable; nor shall he say what is agreeable, but untrue; this is the eternal law

(Source: https://www.wisdomlib.org/hinduism/book/manusmriti-with-the-commentary-of-medhatithi/d/doc200246.html )

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11/22/2021 12:55 AM

This is so timely. The world seems to be full of destructive criticism at the moment, and this is not the way forwards. Lets try to be understanding and helpful so we can move all of us forward rather than backwards.

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11/22/2021 2:54 AM

We can make the World a better place....

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11/22/2021 12:34 PM

Remember " The Golden Rule " .

Whomever has the gold makes the rules.

(wizard of id)

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12/04/2021 6:06 AM

On the flip side of the coin,there are those that are overly sensitive to any remark and will take offense at any innocuous statement.

It seems that one must walk on egg shells in order not to offend someone about something.

I try hard not to deliberately offend anyone,and in spite of my best efforts,some will find offense.

Some organizations turn over rocks looking for insults in order to justify their existence or to further their agenda.

Some of the Greek letters for identifying hurricanes have been eliminated;xi,for instance,because it sounds like the Chinese leader.

The day after Thanksgiving sales was criticized by some groups as an offense to some minorities,when it has nothing to do with any group.

IMHO:some people need to have a thicker skin and shed intentional insults like water off of a duck's back.

An old oriental saying is:"If I present to you a gift,and you refuse to accept it,to whom does the gift belong?"

As my mother always said:"Consider the source,and allow for ignorance."

Eleanor Roosevelt said "No one can offend me unless I allow it."

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01/08/2022 4:36 PM

On the flip side of the coin, there are those that are overly sensitive to any remark and will take offense at any innocuous statement.

There’s over-sensitive, and then there’s hyper-sensitive members that will not stop and pushes the realm of self-hypocrisy

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01/08/2022 4:54 PM

There are the super-sensitive,supercilious insult hunters that will try to find anything to justify their continued existence.

I am not calling any names,and as my ole gran'pappy said,"If you throw a rock into a pack of dogs,the one that gets hit will holler."

I hope this is not found to be offensive to anyone,for it is made in good humor,with no ill will towards anyone.

Life is short..eat dessert first!

Don't worry.Be happy!

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01/08/2022 5:49 PM

Life is short..eat dessert first!

I knew and grew up with a kid that did that… but he did it for other reasons… he was afraid he’d get no desert and after he ate it, ate his dinner, he again expected desert

He was quite over weight,

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01/09/2022 4:13 AM

But what if he had choked on his dinner,before he had a chance to get dessert?

I knew a guy that was a real health nut,exercised,ate right,stayed at the exact proper BMI,a real specimen.

He resisted the temptation to eat good-to-you but bad for you foods,by passed all desserts,and he confessed,he was sorely tempted.

He stepped off of a bus one day and got run over.

It boils down to quality vs quantity.

The BMI is a crock..you cannot measure volume or density using only one dimension.

Professional football players are weighed in water,by the amount of displacement, to determine body fat,to tell if they have been goofing off in the off season.

That is the only accurate method to determine body fat.

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01/09/2022 7:30 AM

Well, if you every saw this kid eat… he chokes down his desert, proceeds to choke down his down his dinner, and asks for his second desert before everyone is finished being seated at the table.

He was actually a part of the joke when we visited… and by joke, we mean we would wonder, if he has to count his fingers after he eats, make sure they’re all still there.

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