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Sexting: Misappropriated Legislature?

Posted May 06, 2009 12:01 AM by YargRovert

I saw a news story last night on what is apparently the "new" craze, sexting. Sexting (from 'sex' and 'texting') is the act of texting explicit messages or sending revealing photos via cell phone; it has supposedly replaced flirting in America's youth subculture.

Sexting itself isn't what gets me, it's the way the media is approaching the issue. Here are a few of the headlines from Google News, "Parents urged to stop teens 'sexting'", "Sexting: How parents can keep kids safe", "Spreading the word about 'sexting' dangers", etc. Sexting has been labeled as bad and dangerous, but isn't it still better than kids actually having sex?

Some of the consequences of sexting are charges of soliciting a minor or having to register as a juvenile sex offender! This applies to both sender and receiver, even if they are both under 18. These are laws that were put in place to protect children from sexual predators, not stop teens from being curious.

The remarkable part of the situation is that people are only concerned about sending text and pictures. Apparently the message is "Don't let your girlfriend send you a naked picture of herself, convince her to strip for you in person!"

The proposed solution for parents is to watch your kids while they text to make sure they aren't sending explicit material – what a joke! The only way I can see to censor these messages would be to monitor all cell phone traffic, which most people should have a problem with. A better solution would be for parents to sit down and educate their children about sex and the laws that govern it.

I realize that talking to kids about sex can be uncomfortable, but relying on the media and teachers to scare them out of having sex is not going to solve the issue. I can't help but think of the novel "Brave New World" by Aldous Huxley predicting practical sex education for elementary schools and non-existent parenting.

What are your views on sexting? Should teenagers be prosecuted as sex offenders?

Resources:
HealthNewsDigest.com - http://www.healthnewsdigest.com/news/Guest_Columnist_710/Have_You_Heard_the_Word_About_Sexting.shtml
Capital News - http://capitalnews9.com/content/headlines/138687/spreading-the-word-about--sexting--dangers/Default.aspx
Image Resource - http://www.sacbee.com/capitolandcalifornia/story/981124.html

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05/06/2009 8:43 AM

Should teenagers be prosecuted as sex offenders?

Yes, absolutely.

When children are sending risque photos of each other, and viewing them on school grounds (I'm sure they are showing their friends), it is almost the same as having sex with minors in school!

Say a young boy receives a texted photo of a girl that he likes, but flips open his phone to find a naked (sexted) picture of that girl; this is something he did not want or ask for. IT IS RAPE!

It's one thing to sext in the privacy of your own home, but a cellphone is USED PUBLICALLY! Even so, children should not be sexting until they are at least 18 years old and are married.

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05/06/2009 9:47 AM

So they're showing their friends. Does that constitute gang rape? Should they all be prosecuted for seeing the photo? At the worst you might be able to call it sexual harassment, but because 'rape' is defined as unwilling sexual intercourse or penetration, I don't think that it applies in this situation. "Almost the same as having sex" doesn't cut it.

Do you know any teenage boys that don't want to see pictures of naked girls, especially ones that they like? Your hypothetical boy may not have asked for the picture, but it's probably safe to assume that he's not going to be unhappy about receiving it.

In my opinion cell phones shouldn't even be allowed in school. They're either distracting the students from learning, or used to cheat (also detracting from learning). And even if it didn't eliminate sexting, it would at least keep it out of the schools.

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05/06/2009 10:05 AM

Gang-rape may be a bit extravagant, but that boy and his friends should be prosecuted in some way. The poor girl intended that photo to be viewed by one person, not several.

Wikipedia (the link you provided) defines rape as sexual assualt -- take a look at that link. You will notice that in the third paragraph, Sexting is the FIRST FORM of sexual assault! It is also listed in the Specific Offenses on the right side of the page! Obviously sexters should be prosecuted, no matter their age.

However, I do agree with you -- cellphones should not be allowed in schools.

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05/06/2009 10:51 AM

I saw the same news and the spin they put on it was outrageous. They focus on 20% of teens that have done this but don't mention that 80% of teens haven't! The news really isn't news at all and media outlets just look for something to stir the pot and get parents up in arms over something. The same thing happened last year with the "dangers of pedophiles on MySpace".

They interviewed one lady on the news who said she cancelled her sons text messaging plan cause of the "dangers of sexting." Get a clue.

The news channel I was watching even went as far as to say parents should know all of their children's computer passwords! If you had done a decent job of raising your kids then you wouldn't need to be snooping in their email and maybe your insecure actions is what drove your kids to this misbehavior.

As for being prosecuted over this, another ridiculous statement. If it's a 40 year old man with pictures of teens on his phone that is one thing, but if it's other teens, I don't see what the issue is. Actual intercourse between the same teens is legal but sending a picture isn't? These people aren't being forced to send out risqué photos, it's a decision and they know very well there is a good probability more than 1 person will see it.

Since 9/11 parents have forced school districts to allow cell phones in most school in case of emergency. They are not allowed in classrooms but they are allowed in students lockers.

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05/06/2009 12:40 PM

I agree that this sexting craze has gotten out of hand. The problem is that the texts and pictures get spread around. So one persons misjudged sext is a mass amount of peoples pleasure.

I definitely agree that parents shouldn't know all of their kids passwords, it is taking away a bit of their privacy and show that you don't trust/respect them. But in all honesty, when I was a kid, I didn't need passwords because I was never on the computer when there was a whole outdoors to play with! The problem is that parents aren't always being the best parents. Kids are learning how to be more secretive and deceptive. Unfortunately poor family structure has led to a generation of kids that don't value family and education as much as past generations (or at least this is what I believe).

It seems these days that kids are growing up faster. Wearing inappropriate clothing, tons of make-up, and sexting seem to be a few indicators that these children are acting like adults sooner than ever before. Does this indicate a poor family structure or a poor education system? What does this shift in priorities (looking good in school rather than learning) originate from? Are these trends indicators of a bigger problem that needs to be solved?

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05/07/2009 8:50 AM

You can always trust the mass media to make a mountain out of a molehill. Their goal isn't to disseminate information; the goal is to sell papers (or get hits on their web site) and call attention to themselves.

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i think u made a good point im with u all the wy with that one if the sexting is between both teens and they do it its not forcing them is their dicision that they are akin so they should not be registered as a sex offender

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05/07/2009 7:57 AM

"Wikipedia (the link you provided) defines rape as sexual assualt -- take a look at that link. "

I think that you might want to check the link yourself prior to criticising someone else. The following excerpts are taken directly from the Wikipedia link that you have been discussing. It states that rape is a FORM of sexual assault. Not all sexual assault is rape. Even though "sexting" can be a form of sexual assault, that does not make it rape. Even the widest definition of rape by some jurisdictions denotes "all non-consentual sexual ACTIVITY". If someone takes a nude picture of themselves and sends it to someone who may not have any desire to see that picture, the worst that it can be construed as is sexual assault, NOT RAPE!!!!!!

The following are taken from the Wikipedia page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape

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Rape, also referred to as sexual assault, is an assault by a person involving sexual intercourse with or sexual penetration of another person without that person's consent.

Though definitions vary, rape is defined in most jurisdictions as sexual intercourse, or other forms of sexual penetration, by one person ("the accused" or "the perpetrator") with or against another person ("the victim") without the consent of the victim.

The term sexual assault is closely related to rape.

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05/07/2009 8:48 AM

I wouldn't call Wikipedia the be all and end all of legal definitions. The idea that a picture sent between teens is an assault is over the top. Most teen boys would be amused. Maybe a teen girl would be offended, especially if they didn't want the attention. That might be harassment but assault? It would seem that people are trying to apply extreme labels to the activity as a hysterical response to something they don't approve of.

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05/11/2009 6:23 AM

All that I was stating is that the absolute worst crime that this can be construed as is sexual assault. It would take a pretty extreme case and a whole lot of people with their heads residing in their nether regions to come up with that though. I personally think that if someone wants to do that, then they should be able to. Parents need to step up and take responsibility for raising their children, not letting the school system do it for them. One of my neices has a cell phone and when she got in trouble for texting during school, she lost her phone for 6 months. She voluntarily gave up her phone and set the pujnishment for herself. This is, in my opinion, a result of GOOD PARENTING. When raised properly, kids will take responsibility for their own actions and make decisions that they decide upon and not let their friends make the decision for them. I am tired of constantly hearing parents blaming their childrens behavior on the tv shows or on internet content. Turn off the damned tv, unplug the frigging computer, step up and be a damned parent!

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05/07/2009 7:01 AM

The law here in the UK states that the person sending explicit or pornographic images will be prosecuted. The person who receives them will not be prosecuted as long as he/she does not pass them on!

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07/05/2009 4:25 PM

Ok, in what logic is a teenage boy going to feel "raped" by a nude photo of a girl he likes. and if they are both under 18 there shouldn't be a problem. Plus, a cell phone is not that public, the whole idea of texting is that there is a way to communicate privately when you are around a group.

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07/26/2009 10:40 AM

at least 18 years old and are married. - what century are you living in? 18 years & married, do you live in Utah?

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12/05/2009 8:43 PM

Well then might as well make all porn illegal to have, send, and recieve. by your logic. The fact is this what can you do if the child takes a picture of themselves? Lets say a 13 year old takes a nude shot of herself or himself and sends it to the one their trying to attract to go out. What can you do? Should you punish them for doing something they did during their stupidity of their youth 10 years down the road when they are 23? I Hardly think a childhood mistake should haunt somone the rest of their life, otherwise what is growing up about? Being purfect? It is called learning as one grows up, sure the parents should be informed, and the child needs to be talked to about it and taught the reason that doing such things is wrong. They need to be given a good grounding in morality but everyone is a sinner. I think your trying to stone somone before they have fully realized. We arent born with a perfect understanding and dicispline to do what is right when we first come into this world.

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12/07/2009 8:17 AM

Do you know how creepy you sound, man? Being an "It's OK for 13-Year-Old Girls and Boys to Send Naked Self-Portraits" advocate isn't something you want to yell from a rooftop.

Besides - is it legal to have a beer when you are 13? No. Smoke cigarettes? No. Drive a car? Watch an R or X rated film? No. Send X rated photos of your self to anyone? No! A lot of kids will still do all those things before they a legal, but it's still a law.

If they only reason for a sexting law was too keep digital photos of children away from sick perverts like yourself, then I'd say that is a damn good reason.

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05/06/2009 8:52 AM

Hmmm.....

What about jokes that aren't "clean"? Will they be next?

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05/06/2009 10:31 AM

I think those are already covered under sexual harassment, but what about books that describe sexual acts? Are we going to put an age limit on reading?

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05/07/2009 7:41 AM

Good Question?

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05/06/2009 11:39 AM

And what about CR4?

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05/06/2009 11:39 AM

....this is really just another reason to buy an iPhone. MMS is not supported so you can't receive photos in text messages...er i mean sext messages....

"Sexting.....there ISN'T an app for that"

http://cr4.globalspec.com/blogentry/8331/Are-iPhones-Really-Worth-All-the-Hype

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05/06/2009 6:06 PM

Them kids, what will they think of next? Next thing you know they will buy stamps and mail letters. They'll know if their parents opened them because either the sealing wax is broke, or somebody cut the strapping tape.

Fact is that children are innocent, and then they become adults, and less innocent.

I myself told my daughter that she had a right to her secrets, for otherwise she could not really become the person she wanted to be.

It is also my view that if you don't give guidance and values before the onset of puberty and adolescence, and the loss of innocence, not much you do out of fears in a punitive fashion will do much good.

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05/06/2009 11:41 PM

With all the wonderful new laws being passed everyday, the USA must be getting better and better all the time.

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07/27/2009 5:16 PM

land of the censored, home of the sexually uninhibited teens...

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05/07/2009 12:30 AM

If you raise your children with the good values you practice these issues won't come up.

Point 2: if children demonstrate immature judgement, shouldn't they be educated, not prosecuted?

(my daughters are HS senior, and college freshman) and daily face issues I couldn't have imagined in 1968 entering college.

texting, myspace, facebook are part of today, and one's core values will show through.

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05/07/2009 12:55 AM

Seems to me we've lost sight of the underlying purpose for laws against the possession of the images at issue. We are trying to prevent the real sexual abuse of people under the age of legal consent by criminalizing the source of market forces that give rise to the demand for images created during an act of abuse. This I'm assuming means that the capture of images of a defined type is an abuse in itself and the underage subject(s) cannot legally consent to such an act.

We as a society already pretty much decided that abuse (in the current sense; some archaic terminology using the same words notwithstanding) in a legal sense does not take place until an adult gets involved. So it becomes very hard for me to understand how we can blame a child for any kind of abuse unless the act involves two children one of which cannot or does not consent or a child acting against an adult without the adult's consent.

I'm not saying that any specific sexual activity by children is advisable or should be legal. This is a subject best addressed by professionals and codified into law in some cases. But to prosecute a child under a law and a penalty schedule specifically created to protect children from predatory adults is absurd.

Existing laws need to be changed to reflect current reality, the sooner the better. Fortunately we have a judicial system that will protect most kids caught in the snare of law enforcement entities with other objectives. The overarching desire to slow or prevent ill advised but common placed sexual activity in children at and above the age of puberty is no excuse to impose ruinous punishments just to set examples and create a climate of fear among our youth.

We all pretty much agree that this sexting stuff is a bad idea and should be discouraged. Whether we can come up with a way to hamper it with laws is a good question. But if laws are the answer then penalties should be clearly in proportion to the actual harm to children. And hopefully the lawmakers will think through all possible scenarios before throwing poorly worded pieces of legislation "over the wall" as has obviously been done in the past.

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05/07/2009 9:05 AM

GA Ed. In a free society effectively legislating morality is extremely difficult. As we (society) rationalize our growing permissiveness and abdicate our parental responsibilities, it becomes impossible.

Teens need to have a clear sense of what is right and wrong and that there are always consequences for wrong decisions. They are never going to receive this from a politically biased media and educational system and certainly never from a mountain of laws that takes a law degree to comprehend. The responsibility lies with parents.

I'd suggest that bad parenting should be illegal and have consequences, but I would just be suggesting that the problem should be the solution!

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05/07/2009 2:37 PM

So how do we break the cycle? We need to teach the children of today to be good parents, but they're learning parenting from parents who (apparently) aren't always practicing good parenting.

Let's say we somehow got the message across to the younger generation that good parenting is ... well, good ... and they want to learn. If their parents aren't teaching or even practicing morality, and the media (as Guest pointed out) isn't taking responsibility for promoting morality, where are they going to learn it?

Unfortunately immorality is profitable (i.e. "sex sells"), so what are some ways we could make good morals profitable enough for people, companies, and/or media to lead by example?

It's easier to walk downhill than up, so there needs to be some motivator to turn around...

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05/08/2009 6:00 PM

For most of our "short" history, the strong faith,family and conscience of American society generally kept our morality intact. As we "progressively" move to a secular society, redefine our families and become more self centered, no laws or legal system can prevent the changes we are seeing. Do we wonder why we are sometimes referred to as decadent? When we can find a way to change the heart of this nation, we will have the solution. If the majority believes "we are heading in the right direction" we will eventually arrive where we don't really want to be!

I personally believe that the solution is true faith in action (not religion). Or we can just sit back and watch us destroy ourselves step by step.

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05/07/2009 7:09 AM

When everything is illegal, everyone is always guilty. People should have the right to be stupid. Children are still learning. Making everythingthey do wrong illegal is also stupid. Making stupid laws should be illegal.

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05/07/2009 11:00 AM

[Re: OP] . . . . . . Our children are guilty of growing-up in a society that is quickly marching down a path of self-destruction. There isn't a TV show left that teaches morality in the way that "Ozzie & Harriet", "My Three Sons", "Andy Griffith", etc used to do for ... ahem ... "us" (older types).

So called "Friends" frequently applauded each other's sexploits (out-of-marriage). "Two and a Half Men", "Men in Trees", "Sex and the City"... even 7 out of 10 commercials nowadays, are POUNDING it into ALL children's minds the idea that:

"If you aren't having enough sex ; if it isn't exciting enough for you ; if it isn't lasting long enough for you ... then you're some kind of whacked-out weirdo, and need to either take a pill, or watch some porn!"

Just a few mornings ago, while getting ready for work, I listened as the a.m.-tv "news" show was interviewing a cutesie woman who had just "investigated" a relatively new website.

This "wonderful, new website" (as the 2 women's conversation played it up to be) provides a place where a girl can sign-up to find herself a "Sugar Daddy". Go ahead and let your imaginations run with this ... it was one of those conversations that was SO repugnant ... so shocking and unbelievable that I couldn't turn it off.

"Isn't this just legalized, open prostitution?" the anchor-woman asked (no intonation whatsoever of believing THAT herself...).

"Oh, NO!" was the response. "So long as (the girl) is advertising a service ... even just 'companionship' ... then it can't possibly be construed as illegal.... and after you get together, YOU decide what boundaries exist in the relationship, if any."

"This is a WONDERFUL way for a gal who has found herself 'down on her luck', unable to lead the life she might have been used to, to get that life back!" she went on ... and on ... and on.

And ... puke THIS out after reading ... (the gist): "Isn't there a chance that this might end-up leading to more incidents like the Craig's List killings?" ... Response: "Certainly not! Why, MANY of the MEN who use this website are actually well-to-do MARRIED men, whose wives don't mind them keeping one on the side..."...!

Poor kids , nowadays ... they don't hardly stand a chance as it is.

And ALL-TOO-MANY of ... ahem, again ... "us" just keep on letting things like this happen, more and more and more ... distancing ourselves from the answers to all of this ... answers that we all know, deep in our hearts.

Love and prayers for one and all...

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05/07/2009 11:19 AM

Good post. There is no doubt that a minority of teens are buying into this stuff and it's obvious that the media sinks to the lowest common denominator like a brick. But turning teens into felons and registered sex offenders is no solution. It would be far better if the kids were assigned community service and the parents called in on the carpet. Even teens having sex with each other isn't punished by law. This is a good example of technology (and warped imagination) outrunning the legislative process. I am reminded of a case in which the owner of a local marina was caught with video tapes of female customers taken from cameras hidden in the showers. Turned out that since there was no audio on the tape there was no NY law against what had been done - until tapes with underage girls were found. Needless to say the NY law was updated rather quickly.

Don't count on the legislature to keep up.

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05/07/2009 1:53 PM

Very well said, Guest! I couldn't have said it better myself.

Our society today is largely focused on pop culture, which is almost purely sex-centered. I too have read about sites like the ones you've described. In addition to Sugar Daddies, there are websites encouraging people to meet up and cheat on their partner, and as you mentioned - places like Craigslist where a hookup is just a click away!

What is worse, is that there are few positive role models for youth today. Current "role models" include people like Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian, who became famous after sex-tapes of them somehow "leaked" to the public. And, if you turn on MTV or VH1 at any time of the day, you'll see people half-clad and fighting over the attention and "love" of one person.

I cannot understand how parents (and society in general) didn't see 'sexting' coming. It was made possible because popular culture says that it's acceptable. I do not believe that kids should even be considered for prosecution. There comes a point where people want to explore their sexuality; now, it's happening at earlier ages and people are freaking out.

As many of others in this thread have stated, if people don't want their kids to behave this way then they should spend time showing them that you can get attention from the opposite sex without sending provacative pictures.

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Re: Should teenagers be prosecuted as sex offenders?

05/07/2009 2:56 PM

"I cannot understand how parents (and society in general) didn't see 'sexting' coming...There comes a point where people want to explore their sexuality..."

I agree, this isn't anything new. Teenagers think about sex, talk about sex, and have been doing this all along... it's part of growing up.

When I was in middle/high school, it was writing notes to each other or using Instant Messaging when you were at home. That was how we communicated for everything, whether it was about sex, planning what to do after school, or getting help with English homework.

Today's technology lets teenagers communicate with their cell phones. Texting a message is just like writing a note or an email, but the message is instantly delivered to their pocket; the words in the message haven't changed, it's just in a new form. Sexting is nothing more then a new form of something teens have been doing for years.

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Re: Should teenagers be prosecuted as sex offenders?

05/07/2009 3:48 PM

Re: "I agree, this isn't anything new." ...

I know you. You're the guy who snubbed his nose at the newest Lamborghini and Bugatti saying THEY weren't anything new ... that Henry Ford had beaten them to it...!

Slippery-slimey silver-tongued demons love finding ways to justify wrongdoings in just this fashion: play-it-down ... state profoundly that it's "ok", because everybody does it, everybody has ALWAYS done it, so what's the big deal?!?

Skip right over the meat of the argument.

"Yes", kids have to grow-up ... eventually. But "evolution" hasn't advanced us to the point where kids are ready to buy homes, have kids and pay taxes at age 18. So WHY should we NOT be concerned about technologies which, combined WITH societal-decay, are driving kids towards decadence before they get out of school?

I shudder to think what I'll see in the streets 30 years from now, looking out my retirement-home windows... babies-babies having more babies... and the morning news saying: "Isn't this a wonderful boon to our society! Soon we'll have plenty of new taxpaying workers ... let's start spending those dollars , QUICK!"

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Re: Should teenagers be prosecuted as sex offenders?

05/07/2009 3:56 PM

You made my day! This is why I comment on these issues.

In reply, I should make it clear that I'm saying kids are not evolving much, but technology is. As a result, it creates the exact misconception you pointed out.

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05/08/2009 7:21 AM

Believe it or not, even I was young once, and, yes, still hard to believe, I made some mistakes. Actually, I made a lot. In fact, I still make mistakes. A lot of them, but thankfully there was always some one there who realized that stupid mistakes are all part of the learning process. Deliberately harming someone is wrong. Always was, and always will be, but we must be able to differentiate between deliberate harm and dumb mistake.

Children are growing and learning. They learn from us. Set a good example rather than throw them in prison. Prison is not the appropriate place to learn to be a good citizen.

I live next to a town where there is a leash law for cats, but they allow developers to build houses in a flood plain. God knows that those cats will suck the life's breath from a child's mouth. The evil things! But, building on a flood plain is good business. Lets worry about our children by worrying about our selves. I believe it goes along with casting the first stone.

Voltaire, who was not always the best of members of the God squad, said "If God did not exist, it would be necessary to invent him." It's a way of saying that we can not legislate morality. Jimmy Carter lusted in his heart. Every male lusts in his heart, hell, women lust in their hearts. Imagine making that illegal, but I would be willing to gamble that those who wish to demonstrate how moral they are would do just that. They would make thought illegal, while lusting in their hearts. The trick is, leaving it in your heart.

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06/04/2009 3:20 AM

I think you can boil down the core focus of pop culture even further; aquisition, of which sex is certainly one of the prevalent components, definitely the most insidious and manipulable.

Why?

Because it is both an end in itself, and a means toward other aquisitions, on the personal level (Sugar Daddies), the corporate level (Viagra) and everything in between (Paris Hilton).

And because it is hardwired into our biological imperative.

As you and others here have stated, effective parental preparation and counselling are the only and best line of defence. I wish us all good luck with that, as I don't think it was ever easy, and the challenges piling up aren't showing any signs of slowing down anytime soon.

At least the degenerate money & ho's B.S. gangsta rap culture seems to be on the way out.

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Re: Sexting: Misappropriated Legislature?

08/18/2009 12:25 PM

The short answer, IMHO, is no, kids should not be prosecuted for sexting. But I do take issue with some of the article, as written. I would ask if the author actually believes that if kids are sexting, that they are not having sex ("Sexting has been labeled as bad and dangerous, but isn't it still better than kids actually having sex?"). I do not believe that these kids are using sexting as a substitute for sex. On the contrary, I believe that the sexting is being uses a means to the end, which is having sex.

Yes, we all made mistakes as kids, and we still make mistakes as adults. Many of us continued to make mistakes as kids (and adults) because the consequences were either not there, or not harsh enough. Most of us realize that when there are consequences, we tend to do what's right and do the right thing(s). Again, this does not mean that I think kids should be prosecuted for sexting. But there needs to be a consequence for this potentially destructive activity.

We really need to go back to understanding a parent's role in the child's life. We can't boil it down to one or two reasons why this is happening. But part of the problem is that many parents are too busy, afraid, unwilling, ignorant, or just plain wanting too much to be friends with their kids, to address the issue. When parents stop parenting, kids can, and many times do, go astray.

Right now, the laws are really directed towards adults and pornography. The speed of technology is light years ahead of many of the laws on the books. So we have to do the best with what we have, until the laws are changed. The problem is that when an image is sent out, most of the time it's out there for good. One kid sends it to a friend who sends it to another, and so on. Once that happens, it's virtually impossible to get back.

Yes, the article is correct, in that parents need to get on the ball with their kids. Parents need to learn how to say "NO". Several months ago, my 11 year old son came home from school and asked if he could have a cell phone because "everyone" in his school had one. I told him no. My 13 year old has been asking for a cell phone for a year now. Many of his friends have a cell phone, and they give him a hard time because I won't let him have one. That, in my opinion, is wrong. But it's life. Kids can be mean and cruel, especially if their parents are not teaching them values and morals.

Parents need to stop using these devices as babysitters or as pacifiers for their kids. They need to understand and address these problems. Parents seem to be trying to find easier ways to parent . . . but there's only one easy way to parent, and that is to be involved in everything your kids do.

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Re: Sexting: Misappropriated Legislature?

01/05/2011 4:29 PM

i agree that sexting is better then actrually having sex bu weere probably gonna do both anyway so just leave us alone!

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