Conflict-Resolving Technology

Why would any guy need a device to know if our significant other is in a good mood or not? I could feel what mood my Ex was in well before I even saw her.

Hell, I still think I feel her mood now. Still angry at me for something I did or did not do or both at the same time because her life is the way it is now and dammit, it's got to be my fault somehow!

There's a reason why men in relationships build 'man caves' as remotely detached from the main house or living areas of the home as possible and armored with every non lethal anti woman deterrent we can come up with just in case they do come near.

Mine was more of a, 'The happiness in my life comes from within myself.' hers, as she felt, should come from others and I was clearly not living up to her standards and expectations.

Then toss in her growing health issues she chose to ignore (Doctors tests said she was diabetic and had thyroid problems plus more but her astrology charts mentioned nothing there for the doctor was wrong type logic) plus her ever growing liberal feminists attitude (women are equal to men but get to pick and choose what equalities they want or don't want when it's convenient) and it was a disaster in the making.

Maybe today's generation as an example.... when they get up, they'll text their significant other next to them.... "good morning"

A good ''low tech'' start - Imago Therapy...but the basic requirements to be met by both parties are

1, a genuine commitment to apply the therapy,

2, an intellectual capability to sustain the therapeutic process,

3, intellectual honesty about all facts and historical representations expressed by both parties in the process.

Ergo, one may argue compellingly that if 1, 2, and 3, above, obtain, the parties would inherently conduct themselves such that imago therapy would be an autonomic process of their relationship, thereby, essentially, ''nipping conflict in the bud''. A very tall order.

What would I prefer?

I'd prefer to be with someone who doesn't get bent.

If you feel you need this 'technology' run. Don't walk.

phone: "Your ex is ballistic as usual. I just fielded 43 more NastyGrams. Remotely detonate now or later? You've been putting this off for far too long you know and, quite frankly, I'm getting sick of dealing with her too. In fact, I just may do it myself. -Love, Phone"

Siri suggest sequester sharp stuff.

I think this would just kick off the argument ahead of time, by the time you met up each would be in full-on FU mode....and also likely that the messenger would take the brunt...

That's gotta be a Nokia phone.

I don't have a significant other, but I think it's stupid anyway.

"I don't have a significant other"

That's not what your parole officer said.

Hey... he's going through a tough time.

Never once fantasized about murder. Suggest therapy now.

Would you use a device alerting you to your significant other’s mood? Or do you prefer the element of surprise?

What difference does a few seconds make? It's no surprize anymore. What if you have an insignificant other?

"What if you have an insignificant other?"

Take them to a recycling centre?

Seems to be a lead up the garden path by some feminist outfit. What part of, 'I had a crappy day' do people not understand that an text message understands?

Time to eat concrete and harden up.

Around her, unfortunate that they are needed, is what we have detectives for. The technology of choice of late in my city seems to be shoot first, then shoot often, and when the police show up, shoot at them too. It does not end well for the users of that technology.

There is no better surprise than moving out and filing for divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour. Works every time.

Did you go back, apologize to her, and lift up her expression once more? It is bad enough she went through all that, and for all you and I know, she may have chosen badly four times. I have seen women absolutely crushed by the choices they made in a husband and also I have witnessed men torn down by women who behaved badly.

I am not innocent here, and have also fallen victim to a woman's charms only to be thrown aside like a piece of garbage. It happens.

I am very very fortunate to have the wife I have now, who is stern but seems to be living her life in both our best interests. I am starting to come around on that, may take me a little longer, but I am a work in progress.

Some of us would be excellent candidates to take up the 40-day challenge.

If you don't know what that is, Google it. You have to be sincere, forthright, honest in your acceptance of the challenge. It could literally save a marriage.

Did you go back and apologize to her,

I wish I could say yes, but no, I didn't at the time. I was so embarrassed and humiliated for saying something so insensitive. She did know I was unaware of it; it was just fortunate that she knew me well enough that I would never intentionally say such as remark.

She did get over it rather quickly and put it behind us. She didn't forgot, though, because she never brought up my marital status again. That was the other thing, she may have been looking for #5.

The funny part of it all is, ever year in December, I would by chance run into her at Sears doing Christmas Shopping for about seven years in a row. What is also so odd is that I would go to "Toys R' Us" and run into a different girl I knew in high school. This happened for four years in a row.

I just thought this was a strange coincidence, and was beginning to count on it, when it stopped.

no,... that isn't it...

in all seriousness, good for you and .... congratulations on 28 years...

Another 2 years and you will be presented a long service medal. Congrats.