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Does Getting Spanked Make You Dumber?

Posted October 14, 2009 12:00 AM by Jaxy

Some people use time-out, others use grounding, and others spank. There are multiple ways to discipline your child, but research done by Lisa J. Berlin, a research scientist at Duke University, has come to the astounding conclusion that spanking makes kids less intelligent in the long run.

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The survey questioned 2,500, low-income moms about the use of spanking as a way to discipline their child. Results found that kids that were spanked when they were a year old were more aggressive by age two and scored lower on mental development tests at age three. Other negative behaviors are found to have stemmed from spanking, such as aggression, anti-social behavior, and mental health issues.

Research done by Mallie J. Paschall of the Pacific Institute for Research and Evaluation concluded that the IQ (intelligence quotient) of younger children that were spanked was five points less than their non-spanked counterparts. Among older children, the gap narrowed to 2.8 points.

Are Non-Spanked Kids the Best Behaved?

According to Murray A. Straus, a researcher at the University of New Hampshire, "The best kept secret of American child psychology is that kids who are not spanked are the best behaved and do the best in life. You won't find that in a single child development textbook, but it is true."

Now, I may not be a genius, but I did graduate from high school at the top 10% of my class. I also remember getting spanked once in a while. I don't think that not having my parents smack my butt would make me any less intelligent. If anything, it made me wise-up quicker on behaviors that were unacceptable. Spanking was also used in conjunction with other discipline tactics.

I believe these studies are missing some key variables, like how often kids were spanked and if other forms of discipline were used with spanking. It makes me wonder if a study on falling on your butt (simulating being spanked) would correlate to a lower IQ. If that were the case, all toddlers are at risk for a lower IQ!

What are your thoughts? Were you spanked as a toddler and think it stifled your intelligence?

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http://www.webmd.com/parenting/news/20090924/kids-who-get-spanked-may-have-lower-iqs

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10/15/2009 9:00 AM

The study is clearly flawed. It focused on low income families, It simply looks at spanked or not spanked. It does not define spanking. I can understand that a child spanked very often and very hard for what they think is no good reason will result in less desireable behavior - and i don't understand why it would require a study. A study that looked at multiple levels of spanking from none to occasional to quite often, included reasons for and severity of would be much more complex and difficult but it would have usable results.

The results from this study are as loose as a statment like "if you eat chocolate you will be overweight."

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10/15/2009 9:27 AM

I found spanking in my youth actually smartened me up.

As they were intended to do.

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10/15/2009 10:29 AM

Just take a look at our schools today; since they have stopped corporal punishment in the schools, back in the 70's, look at what has happened, test scores have dropped, why you ask, because our schools have lost their ability to discipline unruly children. There were no "Collumbines" back then; what we see in school today, is a direct reflection of taking discipline out of the schools!!! When I was in school back in the 60'sand early 70's no one acted out, because they knew they could get paddled. you could actually listen to your teacher in class and learn, there were no kids acting out in class. Those that did went to the principle and were paddled.

I also was in the top 10% in my class of 800 seniors and have a high I.Q. Although, I was one of the unruly ones in high school and was on the end of many whippings. I never acted out in class though, Fear of the board is a powerful tool, but alas we have these bleeding heart liberals with there contrived, unsubstantiated claims that paddling kids makes them dumb. You say paddling kids makes them more aggressive, have you looked at the news lately? or do you have your head stuck in the sand over at Duke University.

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10/15/2009 11:29 AM

I make a point of taking any study about raising kids with a HUGE grain of salt until I've found out if the author has successfully raised any kids before...school smarts does not equal home/family smarts.

Having small children right now and seeing the differences between then and their acquaintances at school and play I would be MUCH more interested to see the same IQ study but compared with their parental situation (parents together still?), family (siblings or only child?), raising (mom and/or dad or a daycare?), diet (is the child eating a balanced diet?), entertainment (mind-numbing or intelligence promoting?)...the list could go on about things that I think would have a bigger impact on their development than what they are claiming in this study.

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10/15/2009 12:26 PM

kk,

One of the surveys cited accounted for other variables -- "after accounting for factors that could influence IQ scores, such as parental education and socioeconomic status," they still concluded, "spanking appeared to have a negative impact on intelligence" (emphasis added).

It would have been nice if they had published the magnitude of the impact of variables like those you mention. I'm guessing they don't give the appearance of impact on academic (or IQ test) performance. Rather, I imagine they give an unquestionable impact.

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10/15/2009 12:51 PM

Seeing each of those as the baseline would be nice. We find the results we look for, normally behind other disproofs once we prune them out of the way so we don't have to look at them anymore. I'm astounded at how many child professionals have a phd and NO KIDS! How on earth does reading someone elses book and then publishing a book of their own qualify them to preach? I know a few with kids that seem to spend more time concentrating on understanding generalities than raising their own kids...again...I can only thing 'what the ?!@L*@&!????'

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10/15/2009 1:58 PM

Yep they may learn to swim from reading a book too

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10/15/2009 12:03 PM

I was spanked often as a young lad. I have also been the first male in my family line to complete college and make a career for myself in Engineering Physics. I do not believe for one minute that spanking makes anyone less intelligent. I do however believe that discipline being taught and regarded as a value changes the course that the children take in their lives. A child that can have self-control and discipline would do much better in life.

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10/15/2009 12:20 PM

In my opinion, without going into a lot of explanations, I think it depends on Who is doing the spanking. The kid associates the spanking with the spanker. If a parent, is the spanker, he associates that with a lack of love that exists between a child and parent. It is very personal to him. If on the other hand, the spanker is a teacher at school, the association is one of discipline or performance, that is not taken personal. Does it make him dumber? I don't think there is any connection.

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10/15/2009 12:57 PM

I disagree with the "lack of love" associated with a spanking. I didn't love my parents any less because of a spanking I got. I deserved it; my parents explained that to me before any punishment I received. It was my choice to do whatever it was that the spanking or other punishment was the consequence for. I was never punished, and my children were never punished, out of anger. We had a discussion before the punishment as to why they were being punished, and hugs afterward. My parents and I, and my wife and my kids and I still have a great relationship.

It's the process... explain why the punishment is necessary, punish and then show an abundance of love... plain and simple...

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GA for you.

Communicating with them is paramount above all.

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10/15/2009 4:25 PM

Spanking is a mental punishment not a physical punishment. I don't think it has any place in today's society anymore.

"lack of love" It is a perception by very young children only. It doesn't apply to older children. If a very young child is told why he is being spanked, then why bother spanking at all? At best the spanking is no more than an indignity.

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You reading from a book?

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10/15/2009 8:29 PM

Yes there is a mental component to a "spanking" . In my case when I was given the strap the pain did not last, but my mental sorrow was that I had forced my loving parents to inflict this on me that hurt me much more, that did last. It did not diminish my love for my parents because I knew why they had done it and I learned a lesson in life which was a positive thing. Indignity did not cross my mind only the hurt I had caused my parents.

This follows on in life that such actions if repeated can hurt people, this is a lesson well learned and applied when in ones formative years which is the best time for such lessons.

Spanking can be considered an extension of natures way of drawing your attention to something which you did wrong ie touching a flame or skinning your knee etc, the pain is instant and so is the lesson.

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10/15/2009 10:17 PM

Exactly.

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Hello Ron,

I have been glancing through the responses again this morning, and have provided information regarding my life's experience rearing babies that were not from my own loins. but that I dearly love and cared for just as if they were.

You state that "if a very young child is told why he is being spanked, then why bother spanking at all."

WELL! This is my response to your comment, and I make it with all due respect, as you certainly are entitled to your opinion, just as you are entitled to live in "Dixie" by choice.

The mind of young children is very receptive to the learning experience. Almost to the point of over whelming them with knowledge. However, the learning of "what" with out the learning of "why" is a classic example of the benefit of failed mind control by an adult over the very receptive mind if the child. Ex;"Fire", watching the flames dance about providing warmth and entertainment for the child is a wonderful thing "in the mind if said child".

Soooo! how can it possibly be a bad thing? Unless said child is made to understand that just because this neat experience carries with it horrendous results if not feared or and respected but abused, disaster is inevitably in said child's future and can result in the tragic loss of lives of others including their own. All too often we learn of tragedies where a child playing with matches has caused a fire that consumed the home, burned said child, and often siblings. Clearly if "loving Mom" finds said child playing with fire, there is going to be stern remarks made by Mom regarding the dangers involved with playing with fire. However until said child experiences personally the pain and suffering involved with being careless with fire, all the advice and Johnny don'ts will make an insignificant impression on said child.

In a situation such as this, following up the comments with a "non abusive spanking' may get the message to register sufficiently in said child's mind so that pain and suffering and loss of life may be avoided. My younger brother, now deceased, was just such a hard headed child.

As the baby of our family at the time he learned quickly that he could take advantage of this position and get away disobedience, that his older brother and sister received punishment for. He was forever trying to get away with playing with fire. Then one day he started a fire that really could have been disastrous. He was only burned on his hands and not badly at that. The whole inside of our home had to be painted and minimal damage repaired. Cliff got the appropriate spanking the very next time he was found in possession of matches. After that he never was found playing with them again. Even the fire and the damage he caused failed to make enough impression on him but the spanking got the job done. Explanations and verbal comments serve to enlighten some children , that is the why, but only the spanking provides the information regarding the what, that saves lives in situations like these.

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10/27/2009 10:04 AM

I have raised six children and have used the carrot and the stick approach, modified to that child's personality. When they were two and three they might get a swat on the back of there diapers to get there attention over something they were told to do or not told to do and then they were given an explanation that they could understand and given lots of love and assurance. They did not fear me or my wife they learned what their boundaries were and after that they didn't cross them, until they were teenagers, then they got the grounding method a fate worse than death to them, I spanked one of my sons once when he was sixteen for disrupting a class, he never did it again-I stayed in touch with my kids teachers and was kept up to date on their progress in class.. As human beings we all have boundaries in society. I would rather teach them when they are toddlers to have boundaries, than them have to learn it the hard way from society as they grow up. Fear is something that makes us jump out of the way of a moving train and we have a lot of respect for train tracks. that is how discipline should be understood in school if you misbehave you are going to get the paddle .Look at the schools when they still had corporal punishment, you didn't have kids misbehaving in the classroom so other children couldn't learn , they were sent to the principle for a paddling. The point being those who didn't want to learn at least sat there and kept their mouths shut so that those of us that wanted to learn could. So spanking doesn't make you dumber, kids that don't want to learn may just seem to be dumber, of course ones I Q is a genetic trait and carries a variance on ones ability to understand, but spanking does not lower ones I. Q. My children all have very high I. Q.'s and placed and did very well in college and their given professions. I received severe beatings growing up and still scored in the top 10% of my 800 senior graduating class. I deserved whippings, not beatings, but I was one of those untamable kids. I loved sports and my horses, but I loved to fight. I was always in a fight outside of the classroom and went to the principle a lot, but when I was in the classroom I kept my head down and studied, my dad would kill me if he found out I disrupted a class.

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10/23/2009 5:32 PM

That would be like just talking to a bank robber about how wrong it is to rob banks and not associating any punishment with the "crime".

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10/23/2009 5:36 PM

I got a time out message when I posted the other comment and retyped it... thinking it had not posted... and I don't know how to delete it... I just took out the duplicate stuff and put in this note...

Sorry for the wasted space...

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10/15/2009 7:15 PM

I respect your opinion but have to disagree regarding the who is doing the disciplining. I never thought of my parents as not loving me when I got spanked. They took the time to tell me why I was being disciplined, what I did and that they loved me, but did not approve of my behaviour. So in my opinion it has more to do with how the discipline is administer (out of love or out of anger; based on justice or power).

There is a very small difference between saying "You are bad" and "Your behavior is bad"; but a very big difference in what it means. The child can change their behaviour, they can not change who they are. A young child may not consciously know the difference, but over his developmental years it will make a difference.

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10/15/2009 2:00 PM

If you think that a spanked child gets dumber as of the spankings, "YOU" never got enough of them!

I learned to run "VERY FAST", "so fast, in fact" that I could almost out run the strap. I learned that when MOM said "NO", It meant "NO", "DON'T" meant "DON'T", Leave that alone. meant exactly that! I am a person that is somewhat hard headed, it is just my personality, and the way I have grown to survive in our society. And: in our family, and that includes Aunts, Uncles and their children and my Grand Parents, "No child was more loved than "I". I was never spanked after I was 10 yrs. old, neither was my son. My daughters were not spanked beyond 7 yrs. of age. If you do your job as a parent, you don't have to beat on your children to discipline them, and spankings are humiliating, often more than painful. That is the part that really hurts.

If you really care about your children, you will do what is appropriate to prepare them for survival in our very competitive world, after they have left the "NEST".

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10/15/2009 4:18 PM

Corporal punishment is violence. Non corporal punishment can be worse. The brush used to paint either style is wielded too broadly to make any fine distinctions.

I have occasionally spanked my children. On typical occasions, it has been an orderly affair carried out with plenty of explanation delivered in advance of a limited number of belt strokes intended as a disincentive against future repetitions of some maladaptive behavior (generally, lying and deception re home and school matters). Not one of those spankings was required, as there were and are a number of alternate forms of discipline to spanking, at least, (and this is significant) with a child that will accept them. The child I have spanked on a few occasions (my 12-year-old sion), is compliant with other forms of discipline, though they have all fallen short of absoluite efficacy.) Often, however, it is a sudden thwack to the buttocks calculated merely to jolt a runaway defiance into a heightened state of awareness appropriate to the circumstances. The latter example is probably much more effective that the former in accomplishing its goal, as it almost always produces a state of quietitude where something important can be interjected. Even here, however, there are alternatives that are likely just as effective, but which are not selected due primarily to the parent's momentary exasperation. In either case, however, a bad message is included with the intended good message or the reasonable purpose.

Obviously, in addition to the justification, the young child also learns that a bigger, more physical person can assert his will on the smaller, more defenseless person. Regardless of the circumstances or how well intentioned or how reasonably carried out, that message is necessarily included. Some children are much better at teasing the positive message intended by the discipline from the aggression, but others are much less astute. Those same children will more quickly realize that the end intended by the punishment is important enough that the violence is justified and not just violence for its own sake. Others, however, will receive that message much more slowly and some will never get it. Rather, they become youths who expect to be treated violently and/or dispense violence more liberally.

Re the intelligence variable... Perhaps the young children who are not spanked are statistically more likley to have parents who reason with them and dicuss their way through behavioral issues, thereby somewhat improving their minds, attentiveness, and linguistic skills. In other words, there's probably some merit to the point but there is far too little information to ascertain causation, much less, what role all the various factors play in it.

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10/15/2009 2:06 PM

She went into this not to do research, but to prove a point. If you look at her research it shows her bias. Most liberals are biased, spanking is not beating and there is a major difference. My kids had the punishment applied that fit them and the offense. The worse thing in the world for him was to be made to sit quietly.

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10/15/2009 2:52 PM

Any discriminating reader should note a liberal amount of bias in that comment.

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Below is an example of the socialist agenda and more and more government intrusion geared toward driving a wedge between parent and child.

In Canada the "fine print" changed in 2005 regarding corporal punishment. ANY implement used to administer a spanking was now deemed as a WEAPON. Due to an incident with my older teenage son it was brought out that I had spanked my 10 year old son occasionally (twice in the previous year) with a standard belt. Subsequent police station interviews showed that the discipline was administered in a very loving, controlled manner, but that didn't matter. The next day I was arrested and the 18 month nightmare for my family began. They were not even going to allow bail, even though my record was spotless. Criminal court bounced the responsibility of family issues to family court and I was not allowed contact with my 10 year old son for 16 months. This devastated me and my son.

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10/15/2009 4:07 PM

This is the socialist agenda that is permeating our country. Watch out. Be aware. It crept up on Russia, Germany, Romania, and many others. It will happen here unless we stop it.

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Let's spank the politicians for advocating such a socialist agenda...Oh, per this study, they have obviously already been spanked.

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10/15/2009 6:23 PM

Boy I hope not - I had spankings and a few beatings - well quite a few.

I have an IQ that ranges around 135 - just think - on spankings or beatings - I could have been smart!!

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10/15/2009 8:21 PM

I know I sent one answer but neglected to name a book that had a great influence on the disciplined that i used with my children (mine, Hers, Ours, and their's) as well as the grandchildren I am raising now.

It was called teaching a chicken to dance, the author was a animal trainer that trained a chicken to dance and a killer whale to preform.

You can beat a chicken until all of its bones are broken and it will never associate the pain with what it was doing or not doing, and you have to get in the pool with the killer whale to train it, just try to get a 30,000 pound killer whale to do something by beating on it while you are in the same pool?

Rewards work in both cases, whereas punishment is useless.

The same principle should be applied to wifes, dogs, cats, children, husbands and co-workers.

Of coarse, there exist in people, bipolar, sociopaths and others that you don't meet many time in animals, (they are send to don't. However i dont'n think you can do that to humans

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10/15/2009 10:15 PM

Exactly. What could be simpler?

Perhaps not in this crowd (which strikes me as way over the top in terms of tolerance for violence) but in most crowds, a man hitting a wife is considered spousal abuse, pure and simple. So if that is not OK, then how can hitting a tiny kid possibly be OK?? Where's the logic here? Where is the ethical compass?

Might does not make right. If I can train a rat without spanking it I should certainly be able to train a kid without spanking. I am surprised that among a group of engineering types (who I usually think of as being fairly creative) there are so many who cannot figure out how to discipline without hitting.

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Hello jmart,

Had you read a few more books on child psychology, you'll surely find one that contradicts this.

And what makes you associate animals with people? Darwin?

People have free will and intelligence. Animals have miniscule intelligence and no free will! Animals' choices are based on instinct - they obey that which gratuates. Thus they can be trained by rewarding the behavior the trainer wants them to perform.

That makes one whale of a difference!

Applying animal psychology to humans doesn't work. People need to understand. Once they, do, they believe and after believing, they act it out. That's how children are raised right. You make them understand (oftentimes the hard way - spanking) that the behavior is not right. Discipline will make them believe that you are serious about their welfare, and then, they will act the good deed out, making it a part of their good behavior.

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10/16/2009 1:06 AM

Although few in this discussion seem receptive to the scientific view of things, I present this brief summary of the current thinking on spanking. I swiped it from here.

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child buttock-battering isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D., and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child buttock-battering isn't a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,

Center For Effective Discipline,

PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals,

Churches' Network For Non-Violence,

Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,

Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,

Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,

United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child

Countries where child buttock-battering is prohibited by law: Sweden, Finland, Norway, Austria, Cyprus, Italy, Denmark, Latvia, Croatia, Bulgaria, Germany, Israel, Iceland, Ukraine, Romania, Hungary, Greece, Netherlands, New Zealand, Portugal, Uruguay, Venezuela, Chile, Spain, Costa Rica, Republic of Moldova, and more in process.
In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child. The US also has the highest incarceration rate. The US states with the highest incarceration rates have the highest child corporal punishment rates.

Child buttock-battering doesn't curb crime, it contributes to it.

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10/16/2009 8:44 AM

We need to understand how reinforcement of behavour works. Your child performs well (answers a question correctgly); you say "well done!; let's try some more questions". Next time a question is asked i.e. a chilid faces the same or progrssively more difficult learning, he tackles the 'difficulty' confidently, smilingly.

Conversely, when a child does not behave as expected, you spank him / her, the chapter is not closed. Next time when the same or another question or problem is posed, the child conscously as well as sub-consciously remembers the punishment he / she had received during previous learning session. Form this moment onward, he is not with you, he is on defensive, he is now concentrating on escaping the 'punishment' that seems to be imminent. The teaching-learning relationship is broken. You are not communicating with the child at all. Hence there Is no question of learning.

In such learning as maths, the task of learning must be broken into tiny (dozens of) tiny steps that the child must be painstakingly taken through, reinforcing behaviour at each step. There is plenty of literature starting with B F Skinner on the subject that should be glanced both by teachers and parents if teaching / parenting is to be done right.

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10/16/2009 1:09 PM

Why would a child in a loving and nurturing relationship with their mentor need be defensive?

You may find it comes natural to confuse issues?

If on the first occasion you knock the kid off it's feet then glare menacingly, red of face and with a gruff demeanor then yes I can see this behavior developing. But this is not of the subject we're discussing.

Though those of whom posses an insecure nature may not be aware of this level of trust within a interpersonal relationship, pity.

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10/16/2009 8:55 AM

According to Murray A. Straus, a researcher at the University of New Hampshire, "The best kept secret of American child psychology is that kids who are not spanked are the best behaved and do the best in life. You won't find that in a single child development textbook, but it is true." I wonder if Murray Straus and Mallie J. Paschallhas have children? I would love to see how they turn out.

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10/16/2009 10:03 AM

So you think I am badly behaved and did not do well in life!?

Damn all these years I have been living a lie.

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10/17/2009 11:23 PM

I'm glad you're so quick to dismiss the work of an academic in that field who's statements are backed up by a multitude of research, because that is exactly what the quote said.

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10/18/2009 12:45 PM

Likely the only thing worse than being under educated is being over educated! At least in respect to this particular forum.

My three step children were never in doubt that they were loved. I bought them horses, cattle and dogs. the cats just showed up, but were allowed to stay and fed and cared for, just like all the other animals. I bought them mini bikes and motor cycles and the gas to fuel them with. I paid for all the horses' and cattle feed and for feed for the dogs and cats. I required that my stepchildren respect and appreciate these animals and objects by caring for them. My former wife, was a Den Mother for the cub scouts and the brownies, troops that my step children joined. I disciplined my step children as needed at the request if their mother. I lived on the waterfront in Charlotte County, Florida. I built the home for my family! My step children were only mildly disciplined and only when necessary. They were taught from babyhood that no meant no and don't meant don't. Just as the youngest daughter was becoming a teenager my ex. got bitten by the "Women's Lib" disease, "you know the one where they wore tee shirts exclaiming that "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle." She, at the urging of her mother and father, and divorced friends, decided to get a divorce. Later she stated that she was sorry, that it was the biggest mistake she could make in her life. All of "Her/our" children wanted to be with me and not their mother and openly defied her.

Our children were never abused, were on mildly disciplined, and only occasionally "spanked" and never when I was angry. They refused to get caught up in the drug culture, free love and the other cultural abominations of the time. They are all married and raising their families just as they were raised. It worked for them, why not for their children.

Across the street from our home, lived her older sister with husband, and five children. They were rarely disciplined, never "spanked" and were the same ages as were our children. The three older girls all got pregnant, had multiple babies, and only one was married and then got divorced. All have had problems with illegal drugs.The two youngest, both boys have serious drug problems, have both been incarcerated, for doing and selling drugs. I know not what has become of them, as I have avoided communicating with any of them for 20 plus years.

And so Blinky and all of the other responders that believe that "mildly spanking" your child is "corporal punishment" "child abuse" "violence perpetrated against defenseless children," I say this. Your methods of rearing your one or two children may work well for you, in your "Ivory Tower", But down here in the real world, "we see it just a little bit different".

"You" chose to stir up a hornets nest, so don't get "pissed off" if you get stung, "and I truly hope that your children don't follow in the foot steps of folks like Mikel Milkin and Bernie Madoff.

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10/18/2009 1:26 PM

Thank you for sharing this experience with us, successful and responsible parenting requires personal conviction and a desire to provide for children and guide them towards ideals which may allow them a better life than yours is commendable.

The rub in this conversation as I see it is the attempts being made to eliminate personal responsibility in our actions and that if we bear no personal responsibility then systems are required to fill the gap.

The social systems which have developed over the last century have been an abject disaster in regard the resultant paradigm shift towards declining moral and cultural virtue.

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10/16/2009 9:42 AM

If Spanking was bad for a child, God did not know it. Solomom wrote (inspired by God) in proverbs:

Pro 23:13

Withhold not correction from the child: for if thouif thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.

Pro 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Pro 23:15 My son, if thine heart be wise, my heart shall rejoice, even mine.

Too often we neglect God and try to make our own path.

Jer 10:23 O LORD, I know that the way of man is not in himself: it is not in man that walketh to direct his steps.

In doing so, we fail God and our children.

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10/16/2009 1:29 PM

I guess that little parenthetical i.e., "(inspired by God)" is expected to magically gloss over the fact that the passages quoted are attributed to a 3,000 year old human fellow (certainly not unlike most of the readers of this blog) as evidence that the statements should be given some status greater than contrary statements attributed to any other persons of all eras before or since.

Nevertheless, since Solomon has been touted as a child rearing expert, let's examine his bona fides...

1. He was a king who ruled with force and is traditionally known as a military leader who assembled a powerful army to subdue his enemies.

2. He was reputed to have had so many wives and concubines (some estimates are as high as a 1,000) and, I presume, so many offspring that he must certainly have been the one primarily responsible for directly rearing his own children and, thus, such an expert on child rearing that his sage recommendations in favor of rod wielding had to have come from those many 1st-hand, discriminating, empirical observations, a scholarly evaluation of the relevant cause-effect relationships, and an accurate assessment of the relative failures of alternative methods.

3. To have become so sage and solid himself, Solomon's rearing must have been guided by similar principles; yet, it it curious that he strayed so far from grace himself later in life. Obviously, he must not have been beaten vigorously enough as a youth.

4. As a king of a primitive, pre-science culture, Solomon was wise enough to discern the utility of religion and godspeak as an instrument of political hegemony...much like many other despots before and since.

Should Solomon be quoted as a child rearing expert in 2009?

Please...spare me the "rod quotation" in rationale discourse.

Such rhetoric unmoves me.

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10/16/2009 2:08 PM

Can science assert any evidence pre-science peoples of Solomons era were different physically or mentally from 2009 peoples?

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I would put the burden of proof on the person reaching for guidance far beyond the most obviously relevant context and time to demonstrate the usefulness and merit of the reach.

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Which side of your thumb bears a lessened sensitivity?

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10/16/2009 5:24 PM

It must be the backside, because everything under my thumb seems to be plenty sensitive. :)

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10/22/2009 3:05 AM

Well said.

"everything under my thumb seems to be plenty sensitive"

So I ask you now, how is it that you are not sensitive to the things that you think you are in control of (under your thumb), such as your mind, your senses, your emotions, aspirations, your thoughts - all these things are telling you that you are here in this world for a purpose?

I borrow this thought from a line a read so long ago somewhere: "If a baby in its mother's womb could think and rationalize, about its crampled, dark and watery surroundings, it would say, 'this is what life is all about, and all there is to it', because it is not aware that it would be birthed soon, and be amazed at the light, the air, the bigger and real world out there. And so it is with man. He thinks 'this is what life is all about, and all there is to it', but this time, it's different because God has revealed to us that there is an afterlife, and one that will see no end."

So what is the whole purpose of life? It's about preparing to meet the Creator.

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10/22/2009 1:44 PM

Whenever anyone says "God" with a capital "G," though there is an obvious difference in degree, they are referring to a concept that is indistinguishable in kind from Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, etc. It is a concept which has been invented and perpetuated to give humans comfort...in the absence of verifiable information. Just like a child's fervent belief in Santa Claus does not make Santa real, a billion adult's belief in a particular God does not make that God real. Though the universe is a vast mystery and whether or what may be beyond this life is unknowable and might be wonderful and grand...adult humans, like the baby in the womb metaphor, are not equipped by nature to assertively make any useful preparations for a subsequent, speculated phase. Rather, we are equipped to deal with the environment which controls. How can one distinguish between an existence whre there IS a purpose and an existence where nature has evolved us to invent a purpose?

Humans are animals with certain sensory inputs, which provide some feedback respecting the environment. This feedback is converted by the brain into information, which an individual uses to characterize the environment and react to it. The senses, rich though they are, are also limited and biased. The interpretation of that sensory input is also limited and biased. Thus, nature routinely corrects imperfect assessments which reduce survivability, while reinforcing incorrect assessments which happen to improve survivability.

Quite likely, humans have evolved and maintain a capacity to perceive a purpose in life, because that is likley more effective in supporting behavior conducive to survival. Humans have also evolved an impressive capacity to recognize cause and effect and to discern many of the underlying mechanisms. That capacity involves intellectual machinery well adapted to speculate. With the acquisition of knowledge re the mechanisms of nature, the wanton speculation is slowly replaced by understanding and unjustified speculation falls away.

Admittedly, it can be difficult, if not impossible, to tease the justified speculation from the fantastical. Throughout time, humans have invented powerful forces to explain the mysteries perceived by the senses and appreciated by the mind. In inventing those forces, humans have created them in familiar forms...animals, humans, super humans. The God of any religion, including whatever God you refer to, is no different. It is a fantastical construct fabricated from vast numbers of individual and communal efforts to speculate a master mechanism behind this existence that fulfills the human need to discern a purpose and to feel a sense of security, love, justice, meaning, grandeur, etc. When such a mechanism is stripped away, it would appear to leave a vacuum, wherein there remains no reason to place any more significance in a human life than in that of the lowest organisms which spring to life and are promptly quenched. That is, the choice is presented as between a God who gives meaning and an absolute nihilism. That dichotomy is an illusion, a false choice.

Believing in a Creator, a God, by itself is benign and not necessarily unjustified. The universe is vast and the mystery would appear to be ultimately impenetrable. I have no problem with that. The problem for me is when some fellow human, equipped with the same tools, seeks to characterize of define what that God is and to further develop the whys, hows, whens, shoulds, etc. I recognize no mechanisms, which might reliably distinguish accurate metaphysical statements from the wildest ramblings of a lunatic. Thus, though believing in nothing is just as unjustified as believing in something, it seems sensible to withhold believing in any particular thing.

There are infinite alternative views. If one has no reliable information about a Creator or its wishes, commands, preferences, etc., then one has no reliable information that one might use to guide one's behavior in accordance. For example, what if the Creator is evil? What if the Creator revels in horror and punishes good? Such a Creator could actually influence human subjects to believe in and seek to please a good Creator with good acts and lives. That way, the impact of the awful truth generates maximum horror/pleasure for that God.

There is no way to distinguish between an accurate message from a benevolent God and a deceptive message from a deceptive God. For that reason, and for a number of others, believing any particular thing about a God is tantamount to being deceived or actively deceiving oneself. Understandably, believing in a wonderful God would appear to have certain advantages over fearing the possibility of an evil God (i.e, sense of security, purpose, social fellowship with others similarly deceived, etc.). It might even have adavantages over an agnostic recognition that there is no reason to believe a particular thing. Nevertheless, I do not believe that the long term future of humanity needs to be or will remain grounded in such decption.

Rather, I believe that humans will evolve into beings which recognize that they are instruments of nature, that the decisions they make will affect the relationships they form, that certain relationships are preferable to others, that rules of behavior which bring about the preferred circumstances carry with them their own justification, and that no particular metaphysical deceptions need be accepted to achieve the best of all possible lives.

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You could've simply said you're confused...

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10/23/2009 4:44 PM

Granted, an agnostic POV involves a conscious decision to remain undecided or, as you put it "confused."

If, to avoid being "confused," one must wholly adopt --as FACT--a bunch of metaphysical assertions that cannot be tested for TRUTH, all made by fellow humans (many with highly coiffed hairdos and hands eagerly outstretched...palms up), I'll gladly remain "confused."

I prefer that to self-delusion...even if it potentially costs me some warm, fuzzy feelings.

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10/22/2009 1:58 PM

I have one observation for you Tex. I am sure you have heard it before but I will state it again, just in case you haven't.

If there is no God, then when I die, I will be in the same place as you. nowhere, because I wil cease to exist. However If there is a God, then I will be in much better place than you, if I have been obedient to his commands.

I say this not to pursuade you to change your mind but to cause you to think about eternitity. It is a verry LONG time to be seperated from all love and everything that is good. But on the other hand if you are right, it wont make any difference. By the way, do you buy insurance?

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10/23/2009 6:30 PM

That argument, as I addressed in my prior comment, completely fails.

It appears to require only that a God be a possibility, but it obviously also requires that a God be a certain type of benevolent God.

And, it necessarily assumes that one can know which sort of mortal behavior will please the God who controls the afterlife. If one can't know that, then one can only hope that the assumptions that adopts are close enough. In fact, however, those assumptions...any assumptions...could be the exact opposite of what please the God.

It's precisely just as likley that an agnostic who recognizes the limits of metaphysical knowledge and limits his beliefs accordingly will please an Almighty God, than anyone who faithfully, foolishly, studiously, righteously, or conceitedly assumes and follows a particular gnostic set of beliefs. In the complete absence of reliable information, any set of beliefs has the same proabability as any other of being correct (see argument below re why good mortal behavior may be logically wiser than evil mortal behavior).

I believe that I should be a good, ethical person--not because I'm trying to gain benefits in an afterlife--but because I believe that doing so yields an interesting and honorable mortal life and rewarding mortal relationships. If there is a God, and it's a benevolent God, being a good agnostic is just as wise a way to live as any other. If, however, the God is evil, I'm probably just as screwed as any Faith-follower who assumes that there is particular type of benevolent God.

I have thought about these issues a great deal and have often debated the matter with many who seriously follow, on faith, a set of beliefs which they believe to be the correct set. The problem is that there is zero reliable evidence--not 1 iota--that any particular set of beliefs has the tineiest smidgen of merit over any others, with respect to the eternal life issue. Many faiths, when followed, promote mortal lives that are generally good mortal lives. For that reason, it is not necessarily bad for anyone to follow a faith, as long as the followers remain tolerant of other views and don't try too hard to extend the faith logic beyond its realm.

There is a compelling argument in support of good mortal bahavior, even in a state of complete ignorance re whether there is a God or what type of God there may be.

It would appear more likley that a benevolent God would prepare a pleasant afterlife for favored mortals. The more benevolent that God is, the more inclusive the afterlife opportunity would apper to be. Thus, even a good person, regardless of which particular gnostic beliefs he held, might have a shot at a pleasant afterlife. It would not appear so likely that an evil God would be motivated to prepare a pleasant afterlife for anyone, much less for anyone who had lived good mortal lives. Thus, a good mortal has a shot at pleasing a good God, but it is unclear how a bad mortal might sufficiently please an evil God to win anything pleasant in an afterlife.

I do buy certain kinds of insurance, but, only when there is a written policy describing a set of conditions describing remedies for important mortal needs (needs of mine, loved ones, employees, clients, visitors, etc.) under specific circumstances, which have some rational probability of occurring.

Would I buy afterlife insurance? No, not in the absence of some guarantees re the range of afterlife options, because I'd fear it would make me an easier target for an evil God (or eternal telemarketer). Any faith follower should not buy afterlife insurance either, as its purchase would be evidence of an imperfect faith.

These issues will likley be debated for as long as there are beings with curiousity, passion, and imperfect knowledge...faith and reason are inherently less than fully compatible. I'm glad, though, that I live in circumstances and in a time and place where I can call BS when a faith follower asserts a faith argument in a dialogue based on reason...without being stoned for heresy.

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And, it necessarily assumes that one can know which sort of mortal behavior will please the God who controls the afterlife. If one can't know that, then one can only hope that the assumptions that adopts are close enough. In fact, however, those assumptions...any assumptions...could be the exact opposite of what please the God.

In order to comprehend one must read the directions, the Bible is where these directions for the God of the Bible are found. It would seem unnecessary to explain such to an intelligent individual?? Does not believing in God make you dumber?

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Once more time..."in order to comprehend one must read" (and think)...

You've heard of circular reasoning? Does your failure to acknowledge the circularity of your own argument reveal a) a lack of intelligence (because the flaw in reasoning is so obvious), or b) a lack of faith (because you feel compelled to prove something that your own source instructs you to swallow on faith)?

Your position is patently circular and your problem (assuming you wish to demonstrate that your faith is rational) is that there is no escape from it.

A mortal's faith in any source for the correct rules is strictly that...a strong belief in something which has not been or cannot be proven.

I posited that it is impossible to know what a God expects because there is no direct evidence that there is a God, much less what sort of behavior the God may desire from a mortal. Your response is that the Bible is that evidence.

While the Bible is a significant collection of stories dealing with the supernatural through a limited period of a limited segment of human history (though neither the oldest nor most recent), all of the evidence pegs it as a strictly, solely, uniquely human product. Hallucinations, histories, dreams, nightmares, fabrications, rhetoric, dogmatic justifications, adaptations, myths, stories, fables, homilies, anecdotes, and innumerable retellings of same, all eventually written down, selected, compiled, assembled, translated, retranslated...by pre-science humans...is evidence of nothing more than that humans can assemble, publish, base, and sustain a (constantly evolving and endlessly fragmenting) religion around a set of stories re the supernatural.

Even the Bible, itself, undermines your rational position by acknowledging the "evil God" problem...in its warnings against Satan, false prophets, antichrist, etc. The point is, that only by entirely suspending reason and accepting, instead, a particular set of beliefs through faith alone, can one adopt a set of rules hoping to achieve a benefit in a post mortal existence. In doing so, it is not irrational (relatively speaking) to adopt one of the common sets of rules (e.g., some flavor of Bible-based Christianity), especially, if it a set common to one's family and peers. Certainly, adopting a set of rules in common with one's family and peers may yield certain mortal benefits, even if the rules adopted are meaningless or worse re a post mortal existence. Nothing about the enterprise, however, is demonstrably superior...moral or otherwise...to a well reasoned refusal to suspend reason in lieu of a lifetime spent choking the impulse to call BS on the rationally absurb cloaked, however well, in the popular.

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You've heard of circular reasoning?

That unreasonably acrid stuff at the bottom of the shit-can.........

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It has nothing to do with being a Good person. It has everything to do with eternal life being a free gift from God, through Jesus Christ.

Your faith in Nature or Evolution is faith just like faith in God is faith. Yours is just misplaced. You are a thoughtful, intelligent person as exampled in your posts. Perhaps a thoughtful re-review of the Bible would merit you further insights?

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Thanks for the compliment. I really do try to be thoughtful and my goal is not to undermine the faith of any believer. I am willing, however, to challenge faith-based assertions to the extent they are asserted beyond their natural parameters. For example, I began doing so in this thread in response to someone citing the Bible and King Solomon as "evidence" of what "God" has to say on the issue of spanking.

I just responded to another post re the faith in the Bible position. I'm sure it will not surprise you to learn that I do not find the Bible persuasive re the truth of even one of its supernatural claims.

I don't recall mentioning evolution, so I gather you concluded that an agnostic necessarily ends up there. Not true. An agnostic purposefully refrains from assuming the truth of anything which cannot be addressed through examination. Thus, I have no "faith" in nature or in evolution and don't feel a need to have "faith" in either. I'm perfectly comfortable acknolwedging that my understanding of real truth is too limited to adopt a position. Evolution seems to provide a rational and fairly robust explanation for the development of ever more complicated systems through the myriad interactions permitted by extant physical properties. Thus, I prefer discourse in those terms, for the same reason I prefer science fiction to fantasy.

Re your suggestion that I rereview the Bible... I hope that I will have numerous additional opportunities to rereview that book. However, I'm not much compelled to spend a lot more time with the Bible, as there are so many other matters of which I'm fairly ignorant. For example, though I'm familiar enough with Biblical traditions to form a variety of opinions, I have very little direct familiarity with the teachings of Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, Zoroastrianism, Scientology, etc. Learning more about each of those collected, evolved faiths should yield additional insight into the human ability to create a supernatural explanation..an admittedly significant area of study. However, I'm much more interested in and excited by the human effort to tease information from experience. Thus, the rational efforts of scientists and engineers are more appealing to me than are the supernatural musings of pre-science storytellers and charlatans of a more recent vintage.

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We get it, you don't believe in a god after all your long windedness, no one cares what you think about it. I don't see anything in your rantings about whether spanking makes you dumber or did it.

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10/23/2009 1:23 PM

So you don't believe in GOD, big deal, what does your tirade have to do about spanking or not spanking.

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If you traced back through the thread (which I designated from the get go as "off topic" re the spanking topic), you'd find that I initially objected to the introduction of a bible quote into the dialogue as evidence of God's word on the value of spanking. That quote was the "spare the rod" statement attributed to King Solomon. Perhaps I allowed a bit of sarcasm, but I did try to remain true to the purpose of demonstrating that faith-based justifications were of limited utility in the debate of something that can be scientifically analyzed.

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You can analyze it all you want, but look at schools today compared to the time in school when there was corporal punishment, you didn't have Columbines then nor did you have the drop out rate and kids for the most part were behaved and followed instruction. Was that out of fear of the paddle, well yea, but you also get out of the way of a moving train. Sometimes fear is a healthy motivator. All though your quote was religious theology it still rings true in application. No pun intended.

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My reply to your comment ended up being quite broad an on topic, so I posted just now it as a reply (#200) to the general forum.

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"Rather, I believe that humans will evolve into beings which recognize that they are instruments of nature,..."

Instruments of nature? And what form will such recognition take?

The recognition that nature is itself the end result of a quantum 'fluctuation' in something - Science doesn't tell us what, exactly - some thirteen or so billion years ago?

The recognition that we, as human beings, are nothing more (or less) than the latest installment in a four-billion-year-old series of complex, self-perpetuating chemical reactions having their origins in a chance configuration of a few molecules in a primordial sea?

The recognition that we, as chemical reactions, are fundamentally no different than rust forming on a piece of metal or a piece of wood burning in open air? That the difference is one of complexity only?

The recognition that all our hopes, dreams, needs, plans, loves, hates, beliefs, relationships, behaviors, rights, actions, every single thing we think, see, feel and do - our lives - are nothing more than byproducts of countless reactions among countless others; all of which are doomed grind to an eternal halt in a cold, dead universe strangled by its own unstoppable entropy?

The recognition that our very existence is nothing more than a product of Chance and Probability?

This, my friend, is your worldview, stripped of its patina of respectability.

If you think this vision of yours for humanity's future holds out any hope at all, then you're kidding yourself. Bereft of God, this universe and in everything in it is completely and utterly meaningless. Why? Because in such a universe meaning itself is nothing more than aberration, a side-effect, a byproduct of an equally meaningless sequence of processes, and nothing more. How could it be otherwise? In such a universe, you and I and everything else are merely the end products of an ancient, random quantum fluctuation, and nothing more.

That's what Science is telling us. So please, let's cut this 'evolved beings' crap and all that other bull-caca your no-God visionary friends spout and let's call a spade a spade, shall we?

You do serve a god, you know. Just not the one I do.

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Damnit! I wrote a brilliant, lengthy, well-reasoned response and lost it before I was able to submit it. The following ais a mere shell...

I have enjoyed many of your posts on CR4.

"Rather, I believe that humans will evolve into beings which recognize that they are instruments of nature,..."

Instruments of nature? And what form will such recognition take?

The recognition that nature is itself the end result of a quantum 'fluctuation' in something - Science doesn't tell us what, exactly - some thirteen or so billion years ago?

1. If there is a limit to science (including everything a human can do to derive valid information), and it certainly seems unlikely that science is capable of revealing all (the incompleteness problem), any speculation beyond that is fantasy. As humanity increases its knowledge of the knowable, I expect that it will yield persons who less and less feel obliged to fill in the unknown and the unknowable with specific versions of the fabricated…even versions fabricated and perpetuated by others and adopted by fractions of the masses. That is, I predict an increase in the fraction of the population who qualify as agnostics, choosing not to form specific metaphysical beliefs or adopt regimented behavior patterns based on them.

The recognition that we, as human beings, are nothing more (or less) than the latest installment in a four-billion-year-old series of complex, self-perpetuating chemical reactions having their origins in a chance configuration of a few molecules in a primordial sea?

The recognition that we, as chemical reactions, are fundamentally no different than rust forming on a piece of metal or a piece of wood burning in open air? That the difference is one of complexity only?

2. Comparing humans to rust disregards many, many levels and many of nature's tools. We are not described by our chemistry, just as the meaning in Hamlet is not captured by the chemicals involved in the manufacture of the pigments used to make the ink which Shakespeare used to make the pen strokes which formed the letters of the words of the clauses of the sentences of the statements which communicated the subtle and sublime messages, images, meanings, and connections grasped by the audience. Nature has many tools and is constantly evolving new ones. Chemistry evolved early on from the more basic laws of quantum physics and, of course, remains. Many other tools evolved from the physical laws. When organic bits which could persist and replicate themselves in particular circumstances appeared, Nature had a new tool, still grounded in the physical laws, but capable of amazing new things. When those organic bits began acquiring the capability to respond to their environment, amazing new things occurred. When Nature evolved human speech, again, amazing new things. Now that humans are decoding and modifying themselves, watch for a whole slew of unimaginably amazing new things. We are agents of Nature and we are inventing new tools at an ever increasing pace. If that process it not cut short by disaster or permanent regression and continues for millions or billions of years…maybe God will be discovered and confirmed somewhere along the line.

The recognition that all our hopes, dreams, needs, plans, loves, hates, beliefs, relationships, behaviors, rights, actions, every single thing we think, see, feel and do - our lives - are nothing more than byproducts of countless reactions among countless others; all of which are doomed grind to an eternal halt in a cold, dead universe strangled by its own unstoppable entropy?

The recognition that our very existence is nothing more than a product of Chance and Probability?

This, my friend, is your worldview, stripped of its patina of respectability.

3. Fair enough, but of what is the gnostic's patina of respectability comprised? Acceptance on faith that there is reliable information respecting THE GOD, that one can tell which information is the correct information from amongst a morass of conflicting views, that one has chosen correctly, that one knows the correct rules, that one chooses to live according to those rules, etc. The gnostic's patina of respectability is maintained only by exhibiting adoption of a belief system that is close enough to that shared by enough others that he will not be deemed goofy, too often.

If you think this vision of yours for humanity's future holds out any hope at all, then you're kidding yourself. Bereft of God, this universe and in everything in it is completely and utterly meaningless. Why? Because in such a universe meaning itself is nothing more than aberration, a side-effect, a byproduct of an equally meaningless sequence of processes, and nothing more. How could it be otherwise? In such a universe, you and I and everything else are merely the end products of an ancient, random quantum fluctuation, and nothing more.

4. Hope, belief, and meaning are spoken of but experienced only by individual minds. To feel hope, to believe, and to sense meaning, one need only feel, believe, and sense. Access to ultimate, eternal truths is not required. False hope, false beliefs, and false meanings need not and often do not lead necessarily to anything negative. I can hope that a fairy will visit, I can believe that a fairy exists, and I can fabricate a mechanism in which a visit by a fairy has meaning. If the fairy never visits, there are all sorts of apparently meaningful things that I can fabricate to explain it all. As long as I feed myself and live my life, the absolute falseness of those efforts can be of little consequence. The same is true if I believe it possible that the universe is a machine and that my life is purely an accident. Even if I believe it possible that everything will eventually end, that nobody will remember, that there will be no record, that everything which has ever been or will be done, imagined, experienced, created, etc., will vanish without a trace…I will still set my alarm, I will still wake my children, I will still feed myself, I will still seek pleasure and avoid pain, I will still go to work, I will still service my debt, I will still read and reconsider, I will still hope, I will still wonder and feel awe at the mysteries of this existence, I will still mourn the demise of loved ones, I will still hold some beliefs, I will still seek and perceive meaning…not because I have a belief or a faith that there is a God, but because I am a human and that is what we do. We have a robust capacity to avoid being destroyed by nihilism, even though we may belief that "nothing" is possible.

That's what Science is telling us. So please, let's cut this 'evolved beings' crap and all that other bull-caca your no-God visionary friends spout and let's call a spade a spade, shall we?

5. A scientist may speculate about what science may or not prove with respect to ultimate truths and matters of a metaphysical nature, but Science has told us very little beyond what has been gleaned from investigating the world around us and its basic mechanisms. Science doesn't deny that God exists, but it does tend to eliminate certain ways that God may likely express himself. That would appear to be no more egregious than other human enterprises which ascribe to God particular characteristics. My friends represent many perspectives and most profess some belief in a God and some profess very specific beliefs about a relatively specific god. My oldest daughter is a United Pentecostal Christian. Also, I am no visionary or utopian, but I do like analyzing the past, present, and future and find the theories and explanations which do not require the interposition of a "genie" to be the more compelling. As far as the "bull-caca"…however, in your real experience in virtually every other facet of your life, how persuaded are you by some assertion of another that some event occurred magically? I'd sooner believe the ancient's stories of God and miracles were the result of visits from unknown advanced terrestrial or extraterrestrial beings than magic performed by the Almighty described in the books. It seems much more plausible that any real "miraculous" events were the product of powers unknown to the observers, which were derived from the physical laws, rather than willed usurpations of them. By the way, when I said that I was willing to "call BS"…I was not stating that it was BS to believe and I didn't say that the religious POV was irrelevant or invalid. I only meant that it was BS to introduce religious "evidence" in a science discussion as PROOF.

You do serve a god, you know. Just not the one I do.

6. Is that a subtle allegation that I serve the devil? Or, is it a more general statement that there is a God and we all serve in our own way? Perhaps, but I'm not inclined to pretend that I see the fabulous clothes if I don't see them. And, I'm not inclined to accept that anyone who claims to see what I do not has a keener access to the mystery than I do. I'd rather withhold belief than adopt a convenient one, when I am certain that I do not know.

7. The concept of "GOD" is so vast, so big, so personal, and so amorphous…that no two people likely have the same precise belief. Thus, there will be tremendous variability, even among those who profess to "believe" in the same God, respecting the attributes, etc.

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The topic of proof that God exists (or doesn't exist) got me to thinking about a book I read years ago titled "Flatland" by Edwin Abbott written in the 1884. Here is a link that gives a decent description http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flatland. Basically it's about a 3 dimensional being who enters a two dimensional world and interacts with an inhabitant. Much of the story is describing Flatland and the social hierarchy (3 sided beings with one very small angle are lower class than 3 sided beings with a larger angle, 3 sided beings are lower class than 4 sided, 4 sided are lower than 5 sided, etc. oh and woman are lines). It delves into the difficulties of how does a complex (3 dimensional) being try to communicate with a simple being (2 dimensional)? And how does a simple being attempt to understand the world outside his own (and I don't necessarily mean like the moon or Jupiter).

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More like the characters in a novel debating the existence of the author...

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Read that in my teens and again in my 20s. It was tedious reading and would have worked better as a shorter story. But, I've alwasy thought the concept was brilliant.

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I agree it was sometimes difficult to follow due to the older language style and word usage. I didn't view it as being that long. As a matter of fact, I thought it was rather short. I just looked at the Table of Contents for it on Amazon's web site and the last chapter begins on page 79 and one of the reviewers mentions the story only taking 82 pages.

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Your position on the (non-)existence of God is like so many, many others I have heard over the years: half-assed. It shifts and changes, like a chameleon, to suit the moment - and the audience. It ducks here and covers there and, in the final analysis, doesn't know what the hell it believes nor where it is going. It is afraid to wade in deeper waters because it is afraid of what it will find there; and well it should be. Believe or don't believe, but don't bail when the road starts getting ugly. Take it to the bitter end or don't take it at all.

Until then...

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I recognize pure rhetoric when I see it. Your reply makes not a single reference to a single point I made and includes not a single defense to a single point you've previously made which anything I have argued may have undermined. You can do better.

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telex give it up, out of all your posts, you only have two good answers and most of yours are howlings at the moon. This subject is about does getting spanked make you dumber.

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Note: I, too, enjoy sarcasm and wordplay (plus, my wife insists I'm quite arrogant) and responding in kind. Accordingly, though righteously penned, the following reply is written mostly in fun. :)

Fine with me. The record will reflect that I did not start the dialogue as an attack on FAITH. Rather, I initially participated with an on-topic objection to the insertion of a faith-based position statement as PROOF in a discussion that deserved better.

That objection lead, as it inevitably does, to a number of unfocused, poorly argued, circular retorts sprayed shotgun style with more interest in the discharge than in whether they could hit a legitimate target.

I will give it up because the issue of faith vs. reason, though philosohpically very interesting when the debate is of good quality, rapidly gets tedious and banal when it is not.

Before I go, however, I will respond to the three gratuitous cheap shots that you ended with.

First, you criticize my "howlings at the moon." If the "howlings" you refer to are the ones in the current forum, again, each was a direct response to a critique offered by another forum member...including a number by you. I didn't howl first, but I think I did howl best.

Next, you criticize my low number of "good answers." I'm confident I could have scored some "good answers" points in this current forum, by merely inserting an AMEN in conjunction with a purely anecdotal support for spanking plus some pithy references to the obviously Marxist politics of those who conducted the spanking studies. This forum was more than amply represented by that position (review the responses that got "good answers" points in this topic), however, it seemed to need a "devil's advocate" and I have no problem playing that role...even at the expense of popularity points. I noted that you do have more "good answers" points than I do...an obvious indication of superiority, which I do not discount. So, I reviewed them and found it interesting that they were each earned in the spanking discussion. Though your comment numbers 44, 85, and 192 won you three separate points, they were all quite similar, principly anecdotal stories from your personal experience (by the way, sincere congrats on your success as a person and as a parent and choice of residence...I love Austin) coupled with an unspported proposition directly correlating a decline in the quality of education with the elimination of corporal punishment (certainly a gross oversimplification). Though each of those posts contributed to the debate of the topic, I think the "good answers" points were given as endorsements of the surprisingly popular position favoring spanking. I don't, however, begrudge you those points. In fact, I'll help you get another point by seconding the gemlike quality of your comment #146 to advance it beyond the "almost good answer" stage. Certainly, keep up the good work. I'll keave up to you where to put the asterisks.

Last, you criticize the off-topicness of my contributions. My defenses of the various attacks on my initial contribution were definitely off-topic. That's why I consistently tagged them as such. Isn't that how you're supposed to do it? If you're going to criticize me for it, however, do you wish to be the pot or the kettle? WWJD?

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Actually Solomon was the only son that David did correct.

Do not forget sin, this is why he got in trouble with so many wives. The Bible instructed kings to have only one wife. And one of their own, not a foreigner, of which Solomon had many foreign wives.

You may accuse him of being primitive (which I guess makes you advanced), but I would bet point-for-point and issue-for-issue he would debate you under the table. Read again and you will see he was not a despot.

Why do you think child rearing in 2009 is, or should be, different than child rearing at any time in history. Give a child love, correction, and a solid family and you will have a well-adjusted child every time.

And yes I am a father and have three children with me and my (one and only) wife.

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So, you admit that Solomon's rod-raising was inadequate to keep him corrected in the sinngle most significant aspect of his existence? Actually, as the "Bible" is a formal collection of prior works that was not established until about a 1,000 years after his time, it could not have informed him on what God expected of a king. Rather, he would have obtained such information from the collective written and verbal stories and traditions that were available at the time...only some of which ended up in the Old Testament.

Certainly, without a comparable wealth of viewpoints and research, he was in a much more primitive position respecting an issue like child rearing, than are today's thinkers. We can stand on the shoulders of giants. He had the disadvantage of having to figure out how to be a giant.

I'm too conceited to concede that he could regularly "debate me under the table." Admittedly, he was quite likely a master of conventional rhetoric and well versed in the parables, psalms, and other forms of folkloric wisdom. However, most of the points made by those stories have ready counterpoints that are equally terse and commonsensical. Plus, I would expect Solomon to rely heavily on the God arguments that fail entirely outside a debate framework which does not grant them unqualified deference.

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So, you admit that Solomon's rod-raising was inadequate to keep him corrected in the single most significant aspect of his existence?

the "Bible" is a formal collection of prior works that was not established until about a 1,000 years after his time

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You're not getting it eh, what is wisdom and where does one find it?

No child rearing system will yield a well-adjusted child every time. That's a no-brainer too...

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Solomon had the book of the law the Torah, the five books of Moses. He also had divinely inspired wisdom. But even with that he fell into sin. As we all do.

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I counted 5 assertions and only take issue with the one in the middle.

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Ah so you openly admit the spanking is acceptable at times. In your statement"

No child rearing system will yield a well-adjusted child every time." you believe that a non spanking form of dicipline to a child will not yeild a "well-adjusted child every time". therefore it begs the question what other form off dicipline do you use.

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10/19/2009 1:55 PM

I think spanking should be acceptable enough that parents are forgiven and can forgive themselves when they run out of patience and resort to an occasional smack or a spanking...

The point I intended in the "no child rearing system will yield a well-adjusted child every time" statement is that child rearing is far too complex an interaction between an individual and an environment for any strategy to achieve an optimum result in every case. Some children will become evil people despite the best of upbringings.

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Why off-topic? It is a superb comment...

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Thanks for the compliment.

The "off topic" designation followed the thread that started with my challenge to the introduction of the "spare the rod" quote from Solomon. Certainly, that reference sums up and supports a certain of view in the dialogue re the pros/cons of spanking and made a useful sound bite in the intellectual discourse. However, as the offending comment seemed to suggest, citing it as the Great Almighty's indisputable word on the topic went too far for my comfort.

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It should make you uncomfortable. But children, like adults, have to have boundaries and a good old fashion ass whipping (especially at school) is what some most kids understand. We should start with the parents first there is no manual that comes with kids when they are born and all children are different. Different forms of the carrot and the stick should be used designed to that child's behavior along with much love and understanding of the child's needs.

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Okay!

Spanking will tend to make kids smarter (better memory development is known to accompany stress) in the short run, but it also has diminishing returns in the longer term. Now, even though youngsters who get a spanking "boost" early on will (provided there are additional positive supports) often continue to excel (surpass) for much of their lives (or at least up to the point at which "intelligence" becomes more and more irrelevant), it is not really "smarts" itself which determines the criteria (mostly money earning capacity) by which "intelligence" is judged in adults. It is, instead, social skills...and, indeed, here lies the rub; for corporal punishment tends to retard socialization...and the time required to "undo" the emergent and self feeding social deficit is typical sufficient to nullify any "intelligence" advantage that might have been conferred initially through over-intense discipline.

A corollary to the above is that, while spanking is probably not closely linked to native intelligence development in children, spanking does, indeed, very much tend to make the spank-er dumber over time. This happens so consistently as to be axiomatic.

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10/21/2009 9:12 AM

No it doesn't.

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10/21/2009 10:13 AM

I take exception to your statement in that "spanking makes the spanker dumber over time".

Can you guide me to the long term study that supports your conclusion?

I certainly disagree with the insinuation that I got "dumber" as the result of administering discipline to my children.

Your statement is made without any logically supporting evidence, identifiable supporting evidence, or any other reasonable evidence.

It could be assumed, however that dumb children will likely be spanked more often than those who learn quickly to comply with parenting guide lines. Just as it could be said that slow learners likely will generally always be slow learners.

There are of course, exceptions to most rules.

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10/21/2009 6:51 PM

The guest is still immature, give it time and those dumb people will magically become near genius...

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10/24/2009 5:43 AM

You probably missed the operative clause, over time--meaning spanking that goes beyond in both duration and necessity what might be deemed reasonable discipline that comports with a child's age and maturity. The "normal" course for effective child discipline occurs over a relatively brief period of time between the age at which a child can understand a punishment, and the age at which punishment is no longer effective (because adroitly administered punishments have had their intended, behavior modification results early on.

Reading between the lines, it could be seen that my corollary applies primarily to those (and yes, increasingly) become unable to sense when the period of punishment is not longer needed and should end...in short, willing or unwitting abusers. Such "disciplners," in order to stop themselves, invariably need re-education (retraining) themselves, the more so in direct correspondence with how long a physical punishment pattern has persisted.

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10/26/2009 12:24 PM

You probably missed the operative clause

Rather rich guest, the thread is of discipline not abuse. If you can't follow the subject objectively start you're own...

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10/21/2009 10:28 AM

Is that from personal experience that you have become dumber over time or are you just spouting off too be heard. Who said anything about over-intense discipline is that what you use with your children?

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dora the explorer said so...

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10/28/2009 2:57 PM

"spanking does, indeed, very much tend to make the spank-er dumber over time. This happens so consistently as to be axiomatic."

Are you speaking from intense, prolonged, direct personal experience? A certainty so certain as to be axiomatic is not had simply by reading a few back issues of Psychology Today!

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10/21/2009 11:12 AM

Good Morning Jaxy,

After having followed the 145 previous posts I have determined that my post #146 will be my last regarding this subject. While the opinions varied between credible and ignorant, the subject matter was from the outset designed to be discussed with parents living in Ivory Towers, or graduates from the IVY LEAGUE SCHOOLS or more likely "U.C. BERKLEY"!

Those of us who reside in the real world need not have bothered to respond, though the bickering was at times interesting.

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10/22/2009 2:43 AM

People, I think the discussion has gotten personal and is not useful in this forum.

Please withdraw for a brief moment from the situation and try to understand that we are posting thoughts based on our personal experience. It is therefore unavoidable that someone would post an experience that is contrary to yours. The sad thing about this is that we've allowed the discussions to degrade into personal attacks and counter-attacks. Using words that are clearly laden with destructive payload.

Is there a need to debate this topic? I think not.

All that we needed to do at the start, was to ignore the OP (the article, I mean) because it is polarizing. As a result of these heated discussions, we've split the camp into 2. This is because when the matter is about FAMILY, all defenses will be up and all weapons ready.

I'd recommend that we close this matter, move on to serious and useful Engineering discussions and forget all about this thing.

Let's raise our children they way we want to raise them. For those who're satisfied with what they've done, congratulations! For those who've gotten problematic kids, teach your grandchildren. For those who are still in the process of raising kids, good luck!

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10/22/2009 9:41 AM

The problem is: Those who equate spanking (i.e., loving correction from a parent, not striking in anger and abuse) and want to criminalize parenting, seek to take away the ability to "raise our children the (sic) way we want to raise them". Insinuating controls and interfering where they have no place to be.

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10/22/2009 11:01 AM

Absolutely Barnie

Too many times because someone does not agree with someone else, the begin legislating how to do it. (Not just in child rearing) I do not condone ANY abuse whether human or animal, but i do believe that people have the right to raise their children in a manner that begets a well adjusted, in control, respectful adult, whatever the means are that are used, excluding abuse, it takes. I was recently charged at by police with fully automatic weapons pointed at myself and family because I was target practicing on my own property that is outside city limits. I have the right to shoot without exception on my own property as long as it is done in a safe manor, (I would not have it any other way) and it is not disturbing the peace, (between the hours of 7am and 9 pm). There was a complaint from neighbors about someone shooting in the neighborhood, which is in the city. I have owned this property for 50 years and have been shooting for here for as long. The property next to me has been annexed into the city and apartment built in order to make money for the property owners. Just because they chose to have the property annexed should not affect me on my property that I have owned 5 times longer than theirs. There has been legislation started to prohibit my rights to prevent their loss of income due to people wanting to move. I will quit here. Hopefully all can see my point that just because you don't agree with it, it does not give you the right to make it illegal.

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10/22/2009 11:10 AM

There is a need to debate this topic, when you see the unruly, undisciplined, children in schools today, we are losing those that want to studying things like engineering, all because a few bleeding heart liberals don't believe in corporal punishment in schools.

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10/26/2009 11:49 PM

"What are your thoughts? Were you spanked as a toddler and think it stifled your intelligence?"

Yes, I was spanked as toddler. That is, until I finally told my dad that, as a consequence of these spankings, my IQ was beginning to wane and did he really want another stupid kid like my little brother on his hands? This really grabbed his attention, of course, and the spanking momentarily ceased - as planned. Then, before he could re-group, I quickly threatened that if he continued to adhere to these stupid, Old-Skool ideals of "Spare the rod, spoil the child" and all that other Old-Skool crap that all parents back then seemed to subscribe to, and if he kept treating me like some stupid toddler like my little brother, I'd have no choice but to conduct surveys and publish my slanted results in 'reputable, peer-reviewed, Culturally-Marxist' rags, claiming that such punishment is paramount to child abuse and that I'd sign his and mom's name to each and every one of 'em just to get 'em in trouble. And that's when he gave me my first taste of The Belt.

So, Jaxy, I can't really say if spanking makes you dumber, but I do know sassin' your dad when he's really mad gets your butt tanned! And since I never made that mistake again, I'd have to say that spanking probably made me just a tiny bit smarter.

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10/28/2009 7:45 AM

I used the dreaded 45 minute lecture.....with graphs and quotations from obscure sociology papers. Resistance was futile!

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10/28/2009 8:51 AM

So now, when you really do wish to discuss some sociological topic with your kids, do they wince and say, "Back in 45, dad!"

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10/28/2009 9:39 AM

Gratefully that is one topic I'druther leave to the so-so-ologists.

Besides, as a grandfather I'm chuckling at their demise-to-come.....

I'm too young to be a grandfather....damn

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10/28/2009 2:06 PM

"I'm too young to be a grandfather....damn"

<hands sternly on hips> Well, then, you should've considered behaving yourself better when you were too young to be a father!

Hmph!

But I feel for you, Mr. Duck, truly I do. And as I simply cannot bear to see an old man cry, how's about I send you this very nice faux-walnut-burl cane for your daily walk around the coffee table? It's supposed to come with a user manual, I think, but I can't find it (can't find my glasses, either), but not to worry; if you take off those gloves and look real close you can see that the instructions are printed in Braille right here on the cheap plastic handle. See?

By the way, your paparazzi stopped by again this morning - this time with pix of you in the park. My personal fave:

Say, we're all wondering down here how you keep from freezing your ass off up there in that gawdawful Canadian cold. Is it the booze? (psst: you can tell us. It's okay)

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