April is Stress Awareness Month

Stress can be difficult in the learning process. There was a study done that showed adolescents learned faster than both adults and teenagers, while adults learned better than teenagers. The reason was too much stress on teenagers can make it difficult to learn, while a little bit of stress can be beneficial.

http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1973532,00.html

great stress graphic!

Prevention of stress doesn't seem feasible to me, unless there is a chronic stressor that you can eliminate from your life. The cure depends on your physical situation and circumstances at the time.

I have used all sorts of approaches to deal with stress. The one thing in common is that they focus on something other than the stress or its cause, or try to break the mental/physical rut that stress creates. At least temporarily, I have to shift away from the unsolved problem.

Singing or ki-ai can be a way to burn off excess stress. Sometimes the best is to drop and do ten pushups, then pick a constructive physical task to do. Housework, I do a lot when I am stressed.

Other people's problems (instead of your own) are a great antidote for stress. One reason I enjoy CR4.

When I really feel stress-damaged food is required. Salmon fried in olive oil, doused in salt and drenched with lemon.. bring it on! Stress damage will also drive me out of the house. What can you do when exhausted, but get out.

Causes of stress can be problematic, given that so many people seem to be unaware of or unwilling to admit to their presence. A recent example: someone had sprayed some kind of pesticide in a couple of offices on the floor in the building where I work. As soon as I reached that floor on the first day following, I smelled something horrible and suffocating and when I opened my mouth I could taste it on the tip of my tongue. It was bitter, so I knew it was poison (like mushrooms). I propped all the doors and windows open, which caused some peevishness in some persons. The astonishing bit was that no one else on the floor even noticed that smell and it was a minor mystery to track down its cause. I live in the country, where the air is (relatively) clean and my co-workers all live near the workplace in the cancer corridor of the Kanawha (chemical) valley - and what I would call a significant proportion of them have been (or are) cancer patients.

Thirty years ago, I was among the first women underground coal miners in WV. When the roof would take weight and groan and bits would fly off - I'd jump - and all my he-men co-workers would laugh. Yet, they ate Roll-aids like they were candy. I'm going to bet that some of them, anyway, have problems now, whereas there's nothing wrong with my appetite or digestion.

The point is, the first thing you have to do is to recognize and admit to there being a problem. So what if it does blow paper all over the place and you look damn silly.

Stress is caused by condition of the mind. If you are in full control of the mind you do not get stressed. To control your mind best exercises is meditation. One has to learn to mediate along with breathing exercises. Your mind is in full control and it gets good supply of oxygen after doing breathing exercises.You do not get irritated due to external surroundings.Also you learn to live peacefully in this volatile surrounding of the world.

Especially around the 15th! :-(

Hi Jaxy,

If I understand "stress" is a reaction with symptoms to something or most often to someone. If I want to do business with "stress", I have to open a location and suggest something that can correct people to react to someone else or something the way they react today, and become non-reactive or indifferent to words and actions, and don't let show or sense the symptomes.

Forget business about stress but suggestion is maintained to have absolutely no reactions about someone else's words or something happens.

The ultimate goal is to eliminate stress completely, and is to be not reactive.

I have to read an old book written by Selley or something similar from the 70s in Montreal. Now, I am at work and have the small book at home.

You get me later, Gil.

It does you good to laugh. Some people will laugh at anything - that means they need to laugh at something.

Yes you are right we have "Laughter Clubs" here in Mumbai and other towns where people meet in the morning in the parks and all laugh together and have good start of the day.

Hi Suresh,

It's fine to go to "Laughter Clubs" but what's happening before? I am not a doctor, so I don't want to cure my sickness, my "stress". First, I don't want to be stressed, and when you are not stressed, you don't need to ask for help from someone else. Again, I promote stress-free life.

After my opinion, stress comes when you don't accept someone else's opinion. It's fine that others' opinion is different. You don't need to think about it by comparing with yours. It doesn't hurt you. It can hurt your ego, isn't it? Never argue with people or tell them they are out of the line or something more critical. Accept opinions and present yours at opportune moment. Lower your ego and swallow little bit when something doesn't go your way. Also, don't forget that nothing and nobody is perfect. Improvement is good for a "car", it's excellent for "human being"!

Now, you are armed with good things and ready to confront everyone on Earth. Respect others as you respect yourself and stress will not exist for you, Gil.

Instead of bumming about how much better things could be, look around you and realize how much worse they could be. Yuks and beers with friends also works wonders.

^{Del the Cat has a hobby that helps him to relieve stress. My theory is that it is wise to have a hobby, as a stress reliever. When writing intense long form focused work, like a novel or a screenplay I kept a bb pistol by the desk and went out and shot dingle berries off the trees, and then was able to go back to work. Actually sometimes I have started fires and looked into the flames. The recent one in the front yard was frowned upon, and is illegal. The fireplace is okay.}

^{If you actually do do deep breathing well, it will activate your brain with an overload of oxygen, and it is not an experience to be doing without some training.}

^{Hugging those you love is helpful as well.
It is recommended one hug your wife for 20 seconds a day.}

Friend of mine passed it on as a suggestion he had come across somewhere. I have tried it, and it seems helpful. Sometimes it is enough, and sometimes one thing leads to another.

I also read somewhere that the average married couple only really speak to each other for 20 minutes a day. I used to think that wasn't much, but sometimes now after being married for 8 or 9 years to one woman, it can seem like a lot.

If you want a long conversation with your wife or husband, a drive in a car is suggested.

This may or may not be a stress reliever depending on factors related to whose driving, what the traffic is like, and tastes in music or radio.

Pets like dogs and cats can be helpful as far as stress is concerned. I did have a girlfriend who had a dog that sometimes increased my stress levels, so not all pets are helpful in that regard.

Some of the things I do to relieve my stresses, create stress in others. The fire in the front yard helped me relieve my stress, but upset my wife and the neighbors for instance.

While it is a great stress reliever for me to shoot my bb pistol at a can or a piece of mount board against a tree in the front yard. My neighbors get really upset about it.

One joke is: The only thing worse than having a job, is not having a job.

Both situations can be extremely stressful. Overall I'd say the best thing you can do to deal with stress is love yourself, and get along with yourself. If you bother yourself a lot you will have a very hard time of it.

Hi Trans,

You mentionned 20 minutes speaking between married couples. This is because they have children and they are not perfect. Imagine a couple without a "child". There is no more communication. You have "sport events" and "beer", first in front of home TV but later in a taverne or something similar. The pressure goes up and up, and stress set up. See a psychiatrist or someone similar, and argue little bit more about the received suggestions, which will terminated in divorce. After that, each person decide that it will never happens again because they will impose everything to the future other. It's a vicious circle without solution but building stress all around.

Imagine Tiger Woods and Phil Michelson as golfers and husbands. Every Sunday afternoon, winner or looser, Phil's wife and their children are at the 19th hole waiting for husband and Dad. How many times you see Tiger's wife in that position? Rarely. This is the attitude that shows love and support for another person. And this is the difference between a good and bad marriage. When one doesn't interested what another does. Ah! Money? It is the result of the marriage paper! We have to not work to collaborate, and the word collaboration is not on that paper. The final result: everyone is under tremendous stress. Marriages, friendships, relationships, contracts, and sporting events with spectators and viewers are the victims. Two stressed get the stress to everyone.

These are my personal observations about the best and the worst, Gil.

Hi Trans,

It's fine to have something to do, which is not related to the stress you encounter at that moment. It's fine to laugh or do something else to occupy the harmed mind.

For me, the most important is; What's before the harm arrives? What's before the stress is hitting you? You see something or someone. You heard something or someone. It's happening something with you or someone else? In a short, something or someone influence your mind. We all have consequences after an event. The consequence is a reaction. Finally, the reaction causes eventually the stress, isn't it? So! We have to eliminate the possibility to react. It's simple and can be made simply. Do not react to someone or something. I can accept fireplaces and laughing sessions or any other harmless suggestions but be simple and do not react.

Also, why we want to be a "doctor" with some medication? We have to answer to consequences. We don't need to see for help or give it. We have to solve our problems ourselves. It's to simple? I agree but simplicity is the easiest way to get answers and results. So, is also true for stress! I am over seventy and don't have headaches for over fourty years with divorce, business, physical, and other difficulties. I follow my method as a "principle" and I am thankful for it that give me satisfactory life without "stress"!

Please, don't tell me: It's not good! I already heard that! Many people told me on many subjects that I was wrong. Someone are already out from here, someone are in bad shape, and others are looking for better and happier life but just looking. Try it, prove it, and let me know the result with your comments. I want to learn. Also, we have to be grown ups or what, Gil.

NB: I don't need rating, I need comfirmation if my saying is good or bad!!!

I can confirm that I have read your opinions about how to live life, and deal with or negate stress. It really isn't up to me to judge you, or your philosophy, which works for you.

However I know of very very few people who can completely avoid stress, for there are instances normal to life, such as the death of a loved one, having a job, or losing a job that are stressful.[p} There are also known ways for an individual to mitigate some of the negative effects of stress, like eating well, and getting enough sleep.

I agree certainly that it's not all that complicated, and that attitude can make a profound difference.

Personally I myself attempt to be either a Child, or a Parent, or an Adult, as is appropriate to the situation, and reject being stuck in one mode.

"Stress - when the mind overcomes the body's basic desire to choke the living daylights out of some pillock that desperately deserves it!" - Anon

Hi Slack,

ANON said that! You are not ANON! What's your opinion on our subject?